Summary: Know The Signs Of Lack Of Boundaries
Exam4 Study Guide
This study guide is not exhaustive, but please be familiar with the following information as you study. Be familiar with overall concepts, definitions, and also practical application. Additional space has been provided for you to take notes as you prepare for the exam. Note that exam questions will come solely from the course textbook.
1. Know the Signs of Lack of Boundaries and characteristics specific to each:
Catching the Virus -Occurs when spouse doesn’t have good emotional boundaries with his/her family of origin I. When spouse comes into contact with family of origin, he/she may become: A. Depressed B. Argumentative C. Self-critical D. Perfectionistic E. Angry F. Combative G. Withdrawn …show more content…
Feelings are a warning signal telling us we need to do something. III. Not dealing with hurt or anger can kill a relationship. * Desires I. Each spouse must take responsibility for their own desires, too. A. Ex: Jim and Susan (pp. 159-160) II. Problems arise when: B. We make someone else responsible for our needs and wants. C. We blame others for our disappointments. D. Limits on What I Can Give III. Problems arise when we blame someone else for our own lack of limits. E. “Often, spouses will do more than they really want and resent the other for not stopping them from over-giving” (p. 161). IV. Other people are not the extension of our desires, and vice versa. V. The other person is not responsible for our limits; we are responsible. * Sowing and Reaping I. Often, an out-of-control spouse may not suffer the consequences of this behavior. II. Natural consequences are needed to resolve this. A. Ex: A wife telling a husband that if he doesn’t stop yelling at her, she will go into another room. III. Sometimes, the “punished” spouse will call the other spouse’s actions “manipulative,” but this is not the
This study guide is not exhaustive, but please be familiar with the following information as you study. Be familiar with overall concepts, definitions, and also practical application. Additional space has been provided for you to take notes as you prepare for the exam. Note that exam questions will come solely from the course textbook.
1. Know the Signs of Lack of Boundaries and characteristics specific to each:
Catching the Virus -Occurs when spouse doesn’t have good emotional boundaries with his/her family of origin I. When spouse comes into contact with family of origin, he/she may become: A. Depressed B. Argumentative C. Self-critical D. Perfectionistic E. Angry F. Combative G. Withdrawn …show more content…
Feelings are a warning signal telling us we need to do something. III. Not dealing with hurt or anger can kill a relationship. * Desires I. Each spouse must take responsibility for their own desires, too. A. Ex: Jim and Susan (pp. 159-160) II. Problems arise when: B. We make someone else responsible for our needs and wants. C. We blame others for our disappointments. D. Limits on What I Can Give III. Problems arise when we blame someone else for our own lack of limits. E. “Often, spouses will do more than they really want and resent the other for not stopping them from over-giving” (p. 161). IV. Other people are not the extension of our desires, and vice versa. V. The other person is not responsible for our limits; we are responsible. * Sowing and Reaping I. Often, an out-of-control spouse may not suffer the consequences of this behavior. II. Natural consequences are needed to resolve this. A. Ex: A wife telling a husband that if he doesn’t stop yelling at her, she will go into another room. III. Sometimes, the “punished” spouse will call the other spouse’s actions “manipulative,” but this is not the