You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
Sometimes people are put into situations that they can’t get out of or feel like they are stuck.
I remember my sister crying and being upset. I didn’t know at that time what was going on
until she revealed she was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. I thought that having a baby
was supposed to be something to be happy about. Unfortunately, my sister was left alone and
had difficult choices to make. My parents where not the happiest people, since they didn’t think
something like this would happen. Not only was the pregnancy a problem, but it eventually
brought my family together and my sister became a stronger person. I often wonder what my
sisters life would have been if she had changed her mind about the baby. Many years have
passed by and I can look at her and say I am proud to have her as my sister.
My sisters name is Maribel, but we like to call her Mari. When she broke the
news of her pregnancy, it was a complete shock to all of our family. Although I was young at
that time, I was there to support her. Mari has always been the type to help anyone out, but this
time it was her that needed the help. The baby’s father agreed to be part of the baby’s life and
that he was going to be there for her no matter what. Time was passing by and we noticed that
he wasn’t sticking to his words. Mari would cry and there where days that she would be down,
yet she remained strong because now she had a baby on the way. My sister was determined that
she was going to raise the baby on her own and continue to further her education. This proved
that even though things seemed a bit rocky, she wasn’t going to give up on her goals and
continue to be the happy person she was.
We later found out that Mari was expecting a girl. Unfortunately, around the same
time we found out that baby’s father had already fathered another child with someone else. To
see my sister get hurt once again was not an easy thing to witness. Mari still managed to keep
her head up high and continue to look forward to the baby’s arrival. I learned that no matter how
tough a situation can get, family will always come first. There where times when the baby’s
father would show up and then disappear. It was like we where getting used to him not being
around. Mari had a choice to make. She had to decide if she was going to put child support on
him after the baby’s arrival, since he was the one that walked away from her. At that point, my
sister felt that she was stuck and couldn‘t move forward.
My niece Kimberly was born a few months later. That day my sisters life changed
forever and I will never forget how happy she was to finally hold her baby in her arms. She had
already been through so much that we were excited for her. Not too long after my nieces arrival,
Mari wanted to get back to work and go to school, but she didn’t want to leave my niece alone
for long periods of time. She was again faced with another challenge, continue to further her
education and provide for my niece or stay at home and care for her without any source of
income. My mom agreed to help my sister out and was able to baby sit my niece while my sister
was at work and or school. Mari was beginning to grow as a person and I truly believed that she
was going to do whatever she could in her power to overcome this situation and be the best
mother to her daughter.
My niece is now fourteen years old. Throughout all these years, this situation has
affected me because I sometimes think that if I was to get pregnant, would the same thing happen
to me. It has affected me in both good and bad ways. I saw how my sister was struggling in the
beginning, yet she managed to pick herself up. This taught me that...