Should kids have cell phones? Just to be exact, should sixth-graders have cell phones?
Let me see if I can formulate the issue a bit better:
Should I get my son a cell phone?
He's modest in his demands. He says he'll settle for an iPhone 4. It's not like he wants the latest model.
I am serious. What should I do?
I didn't need one when I was his age. They didn't exist then.
Has the world reorganized itself so that a kid his age really does need a phone?
When I was a kid I always had a dime in case I needed to reach my parents. Both my parents worked, and I knew where they worked, and I could pretty much count on reaching them.
I don't remember actually ever calling my parents. But I do remember the dime.
Well, there are no phone booths any more, at least not where I live. So that's a reason in favor.
A part of me loves the idea that he would have a phone. After all, as somebody once said, mobile phones are basically tracking devices with a few add-on features. And I love the idea that my son, in exchange for his phone privileges, would have to check in with me and keep me apprised of his movements.
And then there's the fact that I'm separated from his mother. A phone would give me access to him, directly, without having to go through his mother. Would that be good for him? Or me? I am his father, after all.
I'm sure it never occurred to my parents to want to check up on me or have me check in on them. Their idea was: if we don't hear anything, things must be OK. Was that a good policy? I don't know. But it is a striking fact that I don't know any parents who have that policy today. I think it was pretty common when I was a kid.
OK, enough about me. Here's the serious point: cell phones are powerful. I don't know anybody, at least not anybody grown up, who lived through the great transition brought on by the technology's arrival who doesn't have a love/hate...