October 10, 2012
Comp11- hour 5
“If a mother and father can love more than one child, then certainly a child can love more than one mother or father” - Unknown. SOMETHING ELSE!! Adoptions should be open because the child may have a positive relationship with the birth family, there is no pressure on the child to find who their birthparents are, the child will never have to search for his/her birthparents, and the adoptive parents get all of the birthparents medical information.
However on the other hand the birthparents may want more or less contact then the adopted couples want. This is something that both sets of parents need to discuss and agree on. Open adoptions may attract mothers who don’t really want their babies adopted, and see open adoption as a “halfway”. There is no “halfway” in adoption, but at least with open adoption you can see the baby and have a relationship with him/her. If promises are made to “stay in touch”, there in an expectation to stay connected or there will be disappointment by both sides. The relationship will likely change over time and it will be necessary to communicate openly when changes occur. The birthparents might disagree with the adoptive parents at times. For example; what school the child will go to, what religion they are, etc. As the birthparents they need to trust that the adoptive parents will do the best for the child
Regardless of what they say I still think all adoptions should be open. Say the adoption is closed; the child will always wonder what their real mother and father are like. The child may miss out on a wonderful relationship. No matter the type of relationship, both sides must be committed to the bettering and sustaining of the relationship, and that includes an open adoption/semi-open adoption relationship. While it can be difficult for both parties to have an equal dedication to the relationship, it really is the best way. If one...