Society today has a very loose interpretation of dating. Teenagers are sexually active at an early age and most think that a sexual relationship is what love is about. A commitment to one person seems to be a thing of the past. God instructions in I Corinthians 6:18 are to “flee from sexual immorality” (Holy Bible, NKJV). As a believer we should be very selective in the person we want to be our mate for life. Secular views are to choose based on appearance and sexual relationship. One mistake that is often made by teen Christians that their thought is it is all right to date just anyone. As long as the opposite sex is pretty or handsome and gives attention the teen thinks it is fine to date. The church can emphasize that a believer shouldn’t date an unbeliever but many marriages are entered into by young adults and fail because one of them will not attend church. God clearly states in II Corinthians 6:14 to “not be yoked with unbelievers” (Holy Bible, NKJV). I believe that a relationship between a man and a woman should be based on a long friendship without a physical contact. The talk between two people should be that of everyday life and what we want to excel at. A bond needs to be made without being a sexual one. An article published in “Aspects” refers to Harry Truman dating his wife Bess for nine years before they were married. Harry wrote many letters over the years to Bess but they were not love letters but just telling her what his everyday life was filled with. Lampel states that “It is almost impossible to read of such a determined devotion of a man for a woman” (Lampel, 1996). This is a fine example of what dating should be from a Christian viewpoint.
I Corinthians 6:14, I Corinthians 6:18. The Woman’s Study Bible:NKJV (2006). Nashville, TN. Thomas Nelson Publishers. Lampel, David. “Empty Words”. Aspects. March 1996.