Relationships In Theodore Twonbly's Film 'Her'

Theodore Twonbly (Theo) is a very successful writer who is dealing with the confusion, regret, and helplessness of a failed marriage. The movie “Her” describes Theo’s new and unique relationship that he has formed with Samantha, a computer operating system. Throughout the movie, the couple develops their relationship by working through their differences and avoiding criticism from the surrounding society. Although the romance is diverse, it still progresses through the same growth stages of a traditional relationship and has the ability to teach us similar lessons about life. The beginning of the relationship was sparked by Theo’s fascination in Samantha’s abilities. Initially, Samantha helped Theo organize his calendar, emails, and other work-related
318). Samantha is programmed to be much more intelligent than Theo, so she begins to understand him almost immediately. It takes Theo some time, but he finally believes he is understanding Samantha as he puts his heart on the line during the relationship. Their relationship is unlike a typical relationship, but they try to make it as normal as possible. One positive example of the two attempting to make their relationship normal is when Samantha interacts successfully with a young girl in Theo’s family. The glaring issues and differences in this relationship are addressed during the “revising commitment” stage (Wood, 2010, p. 318). The couple battles criticism from others and a lack of physical intimacy. Theo overcomes criticism from his ex-wife and coworkers by accepting the situation for what it is. He finally lets go of his worries and shows his progression by taking Samantha on a double date with one of his friends. The couple also attempts to make sexual situations more tangible by having a friend help them, even though it is