Reflective Journal
W2 # 1
Three Things to Accept About Yourself
Stewart (2012) identified characteristics one should accept about one’s self during difficult conversation with others. Those characteristics include: “You Will Make Mistakes”, “Your Are Complex”, and “You Have Contributed to the Problems” According to Stewart (2102):
The more easily you can admit to your own mistakes, your own mixed intentions, and your own contributions to the problem, the more balanced you will feel during the conversation and the higher the chances it will go well. (Stewart, pg.97)
Stewart (2012) provides the reader with a model/guideline to assist the reader in exploring one’s self and biases that may exist in one’s own interpersonal communication. Stewart identify the need for reader to take ownership one’s weakness. According to Stewart (2012) “When you hold yourself to an all-or-nothing standard, even a small mistake can seem catastrophic and almost impossible to admit (pg.98). As Christians we must also forgive ourselves as well as others. 1 John 1:9 states “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”. We have to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes, own our mistakes and learn from them.
W2 # 2
Listening through Filters
We label people in one way or another. We consciously or unconsciously transpose these labels onto our own life. These labels become filters through which we listen. We may listen through the filters of someone being a man, woman, light skinned, dark skinned, young, old, educated, foolish, learned, disabled, generous or what have you. Burley-Allen (1995) suggests “Although these filters are within us, we are often blind to them (pg.39). Burley-Allen (1995) speaks from perspective of internal filters that we all have with “beliefs” being at the center.
Because people aren’t aware of their beliefs, they have little opportunity to understand them and/or reshape them. When people aren’t aware
Three Things to Accept About Yourself
Stewart (2012) identified characteristics one should accept about one’s self during difficult conversation with others. Those characteristics include: “You Will Make Mistakes”, “Your Are Complex”, and “You Have Contributed to the Problems” According to Stewart (2102):
The more easily you can admit to your own mistakes, your own mixed intentions, and your own contributions to the problem, the more balanced you will feel during the conversation and the higher the chances it will go well. (Stewart, pg.97)
Stewart (2012) provides the reader with a model/guideline to assist the reader in exploring one’s self and biases that may exist in one’s own interpersonal communication. Stewart identify the need for reader to take ownership one’s weakness. According to Stewart (2012) “When you hold yourself to an all-or-nothing standard, even a small mistake can seem catastrophic and almost impossible to admit (pg.98). As Christians we must also forgive ourselves as well as others. 1 John 1:9 states “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”. We have to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes, own our mistakes and learn from them.
W2 # 2
Listening through Filters
We label people in one way or another. We consciously or unconsciously transpose these labels onto our own life. These labels become filters through which we listen. We may listen through the filters of someone being a man, woman, light skinned, dark skinned, young, old, educated, foolish, learned, disabled, generous or what have you. Burley-Allen (1995) suggests “Although these filters are within us, we are often blind to them (pg.39). Burley-Allen (1995) speaks from perspective of internal filters that we all have with “beliefs” being at the center.
Because people aren’t aware of their beliefs, they have little opportunity to understand them and/or reshape them. When people aren’t aware
References: Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: the forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide (2nd ed). New York: John Wiley & Sons, Inc Stewart, J. (Ed). (2012) Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication. (11th ed.). Boston: McGraw Hill.