Peacemaking
Core 3
How to be a Peacemaker
Anger seemed to be oozing out of every pour in their bodies. The two girls stood enraged in their living room, with no one other than a small dog left to wonder why his masters were acting so differently. Each body was shaking and their eyes burned with pure loathing. Just that morning all had been fine between them, but a small dispute on the way home had developed into a fully fledged fight by that evening. What had they done to dig themselves so deep? Is it that both girls lacked peacemaking skills like how to prevent an argument, what to do when one does occur, and how to make an effective apology to rebuild a lost relationship? Many arguments that occur can be easily avoided by simply remembering several tips. If you have been talked back to in a snotty way, treated with disrespect, or had any other unkind action directed toward you, take a moment before responding. If you reply instantly, you will regret the words or actions that were controlled by your emotions, instead of your brain. Filter your words while remembering your friends feelings as well. When you have thought through what to say, stay open minded and recognize the other person. Acknowledge their pride and their interests. If it comes to a compromise, meet them half way. This will help prevent an argument, because if a dispute can be avoided it is always better for both parties.
Unfortunately, not all conflicts are easy to get around. There is a right way to going about solving a problem, and doing so will save you several sleepless nights. When an argument arises, make the issue about the problem, not the person. If the person you share a bathroom with always leaves the cap off the toothpaste, then you have a problem with there never being a cap on the toothpaste, not the person leaving
How to be a Peacemaker
Anger seemed to be oozing out of every pour in their bodies. The two girls stood enraged in their living room, with no one other than a small dog left to wonder why his masters were acting so differently. Each body was shaking and their eyes burned with pure loathing. Just that morning all had been fine between them, but a small dispute on the way home had developed into a fully fledged fight by that evening. What had they done to dig themselves so deep? Is it that both girls lacked peacemaking skills like how to prevent an argument, what to do when one does occur, and how to make an effective apology to rebuild a lost relationship? Many arguments that occur can be easily avoided by simply remembering several tips. If you have been talked back to in a snotty way, treated with disrespect, or had any other unkind action directed toward you, take a moment before responding. If you reply instantly, you will regret the words or actions that were controlled by your emotions, instead of your brain. Filter your words while remembering your friends feelings as well. When you have thought through what to say, stay open minded and recognize the other person. Acknowledge their pride and their interests. If it comes to a compromise, meet them half way. This will help prevent an argument, because if a dispute can be avoided it is always better for both parties.
Unfortunately, not all conflicts are easy to get around. There is a right way to going about solving a problem, and doing so will save you several sleepless nights. When an argument arises, make the issue about the problem, not the person. If the person you share a bathroom with always leaves the cap off the toothpaste, then you have a problem with there never being a cap on the toothpaste, not the person leaving