Parenting: Parent and Social Life

Why should not parents be strict? In every culture in the world, parents all have their own method to raise a child. Some of the methods are good, some of them are not. Every parent has the best intentions at hearts but sometimes they restrict their child unconsciously. Their strict rules don’t lead the child’s happiness. There is no doubt that parents shouldn’t be so strict. There are three main reasons why parents shouldn’t be like this such as; make that children have high self-esteem, make them independent and make them free in social life. As we said, the first reason is make their children self-esteem. It was told that if there is a parent who make decision and solve problems for her/his child, the kid lose her/his self-esteem and confidence and become shy at the article which called “Review of Modern Parenting” For example, let say there is a child who have helicopter parents. Her parent always tell her what she can do or not, when she can do, who she can do with etc. After a while, she will start to think “they tell me all the time what or when I can do, because I can’t do it on my own.” So she can’t fell herself. To sum up, parents allow their children to develop self-esteem. The second reason why parents shouldn’t be strict is raise an independent individual who can make decisions on her/his own. Some parent want that their children will be obedient and s/he will do all things they say. They restrict the child’s ability to think freely. For the kids, there is always someone who decided for her/him, so time when s/he take a decisions, s/he will confused. Because s/he is not used to that. S/he always do what is told, couldn’t do what s/he want. Even maybe s/he couldn’t be who s/he wants to be or s/he couldn’t follow her/his dreams. S/he don’t know what’s right or wrong for her/him, are too naive to know what s/he want from life, are too insufficient to make a right choices. Parents should remember that their children have their own life all the time and especially when they die. Children have to continue their life and complete their job without someone who tells them what they should do. So I mean, if parent are making a decision, solving the problems for her/his child, the kid is not able to being free and independent. Unlike strict one, parents trust and believe in their children about taking decisions. And the final reason for being not strict is make child free in social life. Some strict parents cause poor socializing skills in the child and maybe block the child’s opinions. Because of the too much limitation, fear of punishment, which was given when s/he did something wrong, and other negative things, the kid don’t feel themselves, may have inferiority complex and s/he can’t behave well in public. S/he doesn’t want to talk to anybody, don’t want to go out from the house. S/he lives in a world which was built from the parent. Obeying every decisions blindly make the child’s brain blunt. At the young age, if parent didn’t listen her/his child’s ideas, in the future kid will feel pressure and can’t talk in the public. All these things prevent the kid’s behaviors in the social circles. For this reason, kid won’t able to develop her/himself. Even when they grow up, they may go against the parents and become withdrawn. That’s why parents should be less strict in order to their children’s goodness. To sum up, strict parenting is an absolutely unhealthy way to raise children. Parents shouldn’t try to control their child’s life a lot, they should be relaxed and also sometimes leave them on their own to make them decision; thus, they can raise a child who has self-esteem and confidence, are independent and are active in social life. It is a really important, because if the method of raising child was chosen wrong, it can be disastrous for the future of the child.