Non-Violent Conflict Resolution In Our Home
Ikechukwu Nathaniel Okonkwo Cairo University, Cairo, Egypt
Abstract Conflict is a state of opposition, disagreement or incompatibility between two or more people or groups of people, which is sometimes characterized by physical violence. Conflict can be experienced in variouss places such as home, school, work place, communities, states and countries etc. Conflict is a part of life and we cannot avoid it. When there is a clash of interest, idea, value or action, conflict always results. Conflict occurs as a reduction of one motivating stimulus which coincides as a rise in another stimulus. There are various types and modes of conflicts. This paper will focus on family or home conflict and discuss the effects of violent conflict resolution in our homes. There is a saying that charity begins at home. Our families play vital roles in our lives. A violent way of resolving conflicts always brings destruction. Parents that use violent means in resolving their conflicts are teaching their children the same way. As the child becomes a leader in school, workplace or communities, he/she will always resort in using violent means in settling conflicts except when told otherwise. Anger and pride are some of the contributing factors to conflict. Anger management is very important in resolving conflict. It is generally believed that anger is part of human nature and we shall endeavor to manage it properly in order to settle our differences. Once there is a clash of interest among group or individuals, it is pertinent for us to handle this issue carefully before it will result to conflict. In situations where conflicts have occurred, it is very important that the parties involved try to reach a compromise by providing opportunities to satisfy everyone's need. It may seems very difficult to do this but we can all "agree to disagree", so that we can reach a temporary solution. Sometimes, this doesn't guarantee conflict resolution but an understanding of the situation maybe reached. Dialoguing is very important here as well. Parties involved in conflict should sit together and iron out their differences. When dialoguing, it is very important to avoid being biased. Try to learn the needs of each other. Listening is also very vital. Negotiating parties try to reach an agreement by consensus and not by force. Non-violent method of resolving any conflict achieves the best result and is the best way of resolving conflict. CONFLICT Conflict is a state of opposition, disagreement or incompatibility between two or more people or groups of people, which is sometimes characterized by physical violence. Rummel (1976) published work on conflict and the war, Wayne (1993) did the work on resolving conflict, and Volpe (1996) wrote the effects of domestic violence on children and adolescent. Conflict can be experienced in various places such as home, school, work place, communities, states and countries etc. When there is a clash of interest, idea, value or action, conflict always results. Conflict can
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result as a reduction of one motivating stimulus which occurs as a rise in another stimulus. Conflict is a part of life. Conflict is inevitable. Some people think that conflict is bad and should be avoided. We cannot avoid having conflicts. We have different viewpoints on issues and ideas. Our ideas will differ with other people’s viewpoints and this may result in conflict. In a larger context, if we look at what is happening around the world today, we will find out that the majority of the conflict occurs as a result of clash of interest or opposing positions on issues. Currently Iran is having a problem with international communities on the issue of its nuclear program. Iran believes that its project is for peaceful process while the international communities think that Iran has a hidden agenda to develop nuclear weapons. Handling and resolving conflict in a...