Gender differences in language use that Tannen discusses reflect traditional female and male roles and expectations in some aspects.
Firstly, each gender seems to make divergent assumption about conversation’s purpose. Take, for example, from a woman perspective, you ask for help, you will get it, and you will get to the right place where you want to go. The conversation is experienced with pleasure. However, to a man’s point of view, he would never to show his ignorance to ask for information because of his high self-esteem. Then, he will take more time to wander around before he reaches the destination.
Secondly, each will have his or her own way to understand the other’s trouble differently. For instance, a woman can start talking about her problem at workplace with details, and emotions. A man would reply by suggesting a solution without the sympathy. He implies that she should spend time on solution rather than just complaining. However, she could understand his reply as not being willing to share and sympathize with her. On the other hand, if a man has trouble, he will keep silent, and say nothing about that with her. Then, he will tell about this problem with his colleagues or someone else who is involved with this matter instead.
The final aspect is that woman talks more to create intimacy, while man is taciturn and succinct. It’s because man start talking to negotiate and discuss to find out a solution. Likewise, woman makes a conversation without a clear purpose, or to make her feel comfortable that other persons agree with her opinion and idea.
Generally, gender differences are not only discovered in physical role but also in the use of language. And these keep changing more and more with future because surrounding environment encourages each gender to develop more perfectly to adapt to new changes.
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