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How Divorce Changed My Life
In my household, kids didn't really have too many responsibilities. I would see pictures of adolescents in third world countries lugging around gallons of contaminated water, just to drink for a day and others who would have to eat something as absurd as clay just to settle their hunger. Meanwhile I had a stocked fridge and spotless clothes to wear as I attended public school like every other mediocre kid in the US. It wasn't until after I graduated High School that I began to comprehend the little things in life. Divorce isn't such a straightforward event to cope with ,especially when you have just turned eighteen years of age and are preparing to discover yourself in college. However, such things were what life had prepared for me. Before I …show more content…
As much as I wished everything would resolve itself, sometimes life needs a catalyst. I tried my hardest to get a job but to no avail, I was left with nothing but blunt denials due to my age. I realized we were dealt a bad hand but I also knew that somebody out there had it worse than us. Later in December I received a call from my local Walgreens and got to work in the front end of the store. Without hesitation I accepted the minimum wage opening and began to realize the reasoning behind my Mom's worries about work. She wanted me to study full-time and not be bothered by the dilemmas that came with work. Soon enough my life was revolving around 40 hours work weeks, which sometimes went to 50 near holidays. My everyday routine consisted of 2 AM closings and 8 AM chemistry classes. My life became more about surviving rather than actually living some of the best years of my life. Before I knew it, I had gotten my first failing grade of a D in general chemistry 2 and would have to expend all the money I ever earned on summer classes. That move took a lot out of me as I learned a very valuable , literally, lesson about

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