October 3, 2011
You Can Read My Mind
Despite the fact that I sometimes only tell you part of what I mean. You are supposed to understand me. I assume since we are close, you know the inside me and will automatically understand what I mean, even when I fragment my sentences. “The fact that we have been communicating all of our lives does not mean that we do it well. Communication is complex; it requires a number of skills and both ongoing learning and practice to improve our skills. Misunderstandings occur frequently, and they can cause problems in relationships”. (Sole, 2011) When the formalities of getting to know acquaintances turn into friends the feeling that you know their character and intimate side seems to let assumption’s grow about what you think you know about them verses what you really know. I would even go so far as to say that your listening to them changes as well. "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate, a phenomenon we term the 'closeness-communication bias,'" study co-author Boaz Keysar, a professor in psychology at the University of Chicago, said in a university news release. (Anonymous, 2011) If this is correct, I can see what happens with fragmented communication between friends, family, and spouses that can make matters worse. The incomplete thoughts between Kim and Pat from out textbook are a classic example of fragmented communication. Kim only said she did not like bread that has seeds; seeds in, or on bread she did not say, therefore Pat assumed Kim did not like bread with seeds on top of it. This is not really a matter of who is right or wrong, only an absence of clarifications of both people, which could have been, resolved when the misunderstanding first happened. This could have never even been a misunderstanding if proper communication had taken place. I am reminded...