•Prevents you from going to work or school
•Stops you from seeing family members or friends
•Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear •Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful •Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
•Threatens you with violence or a weapon
•Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets •Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will •Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it •Portrays the violence as mutual and consensual
The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the greater the toll on your self-esteem. You might become depressed and anxious. You might begin to doubt your ability to take care of yourself or wonder if the abuse is your fault. You might feel helpless or paralyzed. If you're an older woman who has health problems, you might feel dependent upon an abusive partner. If you're in a same sex relationship, you might be less likely to seek help after an assault if you don't want to disclose your sexual orientation. If you've been sexually assaulted by another woman, you might also fear that you won't be believed....