will be like. Assumptions are made about academics, first time experiences and even
relationships. Expectations are higher and the thought of having more mature relationships is one
of them. Leaving high school and entering an institution of higher learning is supposed to
separate the mature from the immature. We are even quick to think that the longer an individual
has been in college the more mature they are, in retrospect, the better a relationship with he or
she will be. What a stupid "assumption."
A couple of times I was approached by several young gentleman here at Virginia State.
Each of them were unique in their own way and had some decent qualities that I liked.
Responsible, handsome, goal oriented, and most importantly they seemed mature. That was
good because I expected them to be. "This is college," I said to myself, "expect nothing less."
Getting to know the young men was quite an experience. As time wore on I begin to sever
the men from the boys. Gentleman 1 was a Sophomore. He had just been in a long distance
relationships but he was eager to get into a new one with someone who was on "his level." Our
conversations were always interesting and we had positive futuristic ideas about what a
relationship between he and I could be like. On two different occasions, my opinion of his
maturity level started to decrease. The one that was most immature is when a guy incidentally
tripped over his foot and scuffed up his Jordans. To my astonishment, he wanted to fight the guy
even after he apologized. What kind of sense did that make? NONE! My thoughts on how
men in college were more mature slowly begin to dwindle.
Gentleman 2 was a Freshman. Even though he was kind, sincere, and always respected
me, I had doubts. From my first experience with Gentleman 1, the Sophomore, I...