Comment on themes of love and loss in ‘A Quoi Bon Dire’
A sense of love and loss is portrayed throughout the poem ‘A Quoi Bon Dire’. The narrator of the poem has been separated from her lover for a long time. However, despite her loss, their love lives on.
At the beginning of the poem, the narrator states that “seventeen years” have passed since she last saw her lover. A sense of loss is soon evoked as there is a dim memory of hearing “something that sounded like goodbye” from all those years ago. It would appear that the narrator refuses to accept that her lover is “dead” as “everybody thinks” that he is gone “But I”. Whilst the memory of the “goodbye” is vague and uncertain, there is a much more assertive and confident tone as the first stanza comes to a close. The personal ‘I’, which is separate from “everybody” at the end of this stanza reveals the narrator’s separate view that her lover is not dead, at least in her mind and her memory. The uneven structure, which is continued throughout the poem, could represent the hazy memories, with the regular rhyme scheme representing the consistency of the narrator’s love.
As the poem continues the narrator admits that she must “say Good-bye too” as she grows “stiff and cold” with age. Although the narrator is now growing “old”, the tone in this stanza is not in any way morbid. This is because “everyone sees” her age “But you”. The repeated endings of the first stanza and the second stanza with, “But I” and “But you”, emphasises how special the love between these two people once was. It suggests that their love is different to all of the other people who are grouped together as “everyone”. Furthermore, because the loss of this love happened so many years ago, the narrator is able to remember their relationship as it once was – young and carefree. Whilst the loss of her lover is indeed sad, there is a positive overtone as the relationship can remain forever young. He will never see her grow old.
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