Chaos: If you run your life controlled by your feelings.
Feelings 1st —Behavior 2nd —Belief 3rd ---Thoughts 4th
Effective Living: Run your life controlling your thoughts.
Thoughts 1st ---Belief 2nd ---Behavior 3rd ---Feelings 4th
BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT
Take medication as prescribed (if you are)
Have a reinforcement team member(s)
Balanced eating
Regular sleeping
Regular exercise
Take care of physical health
Avoid substance abuse
Bio Social Theory
BIOLOGICAL:
A) People can have a biological vulnerability to emotions. These people are: 1) Sensitive 2) Reactive 3) Slow Return to Baseline
B) These people also have an inability to effectively regulate emotions. …show more content…
Entitlement: You believe you should be able to do, say, or have whatever you want, right now, regardless of whether that hurts others or seems unreasonable to them. Others (and society) owe you. People with this filter have an excessive tendency to assert their power, force their point of view on, or control others. People with this filter may be very demanding, are not interested in what other people need, and are often not aware of the long-term costs of alienating others. This filter can be a reaction to adverse events in one’s life.
Automatic thoughts associated with this filter may include:
_________________________ (person, organization, or society) owes me.
I deserve to have what I want, now.
I should be able to have ______________________________________.
Others: ___________________________________________________
Challenges to this filter may include:
No one owes me anything.
I don’t need ________________________, if it will hurt or harm someone else.
I can’t always get what I want, when I want it.
Others: ____________________________________________________
A helpful resource for understanding filters, their impact, and how to challenge them is: Young, J.E. & Kolsco, J.S. (1993). Reinventing Your Life. Penguin Books.
Negative Filters Automatic/Distorted Challenge Thoughts Thoughts
Emotional People will eventually Some people
Deprivation leave me. may leave, I am alone. but