Analysis On How Insecurities Affect Our Choice-Making Process

How Insecurities Affect Our Choice Making Process People are often unfulfilled by the choices they make in their lives. The reason for this is that everyone has insecurities, no one will ever feel satisfied with their work, what they create. They fear the judgement of those who are close to them and those who are strangers. The reason this fear is created is because society norms are imposed on us. Societal norms are a set of guidelines that are commonly followed, shunning those who do not follow those guidelines. Societal norms affect our everyday lives because they make us insecure and influence us to do things that we normally would not do. De Botton expands on the idea of insecurities when he speaks of his insecurities of traveling. He
He fears that we will not fulfill his preconceived notions of a revolution. “Decisions are made through consensus, and the ties that bind people to the group are loose.”(Gladwell 139) Gladwell believes that social media ruins activism because people on the Internet are cowardly hiding behind their laptop screens instead of facing issues head on. If Gladwell would learn to use social media he might find that he will like it. When Gladwell tells the story of someone who got their phone stolen and through social media, they got it back. This shows “the ease and speed with which a group can be mobilized for the right kind of cause.”(142) If he spent less time criticising those who use the internet, he might be able to make more connections with people. He isolates himself from those who use social media because he believes he is greater than them. The reason he has all this bitterness built up in him is because he never gave this generation a chance. His lack of faith is us has left him lonely and unable to connect with people. The reason for his hatred of this generation’s devotion to technology is because it is normal to think that. A popular notion among the public is that technology is ruining the human race. It is a societal norm to believe this. This shows how society can affect people’s judgement. De botton expands on this by states that we,
Ravioli,” Gopnik’s daughter, Olivia, sees an imaginary friend named Mr. Ravioli. It was originally thought that Mr. Ravioli represents Olivia’s brother, Luke, who is normally absent. But Mr. Ravioli actually represents her insecurities of connections with people. She fears of rejection of people and thus created this imaginary friend. Mr. Ravioli also represents her rejection from her father because he does not spend enough time with her. Since her father does not have enough time for her, she created this imaginary friend to fill in the gaps of her missing father. A connection with her father would prevent her from having issues mentally where she would feel the need to recreate a friend in her imagination. The way she is going to learn about betrayal and disappointment is through her imaginary friend rather than through a human. Olivia’s father deduced that this had to do with location and managed to find new places like New Jersey, that would not have the same personality as New York. The average New Yorker is “fit, opinionated, and trying to break into show busyness.” The idea that a New Yorker has an “average” lifestyle, not original to themselves, is an example of how a community may become too alike that they do not leave any room for originality. The reason that Olivia could not see Mr. Ravioli as anything else besides an average New Yorker is because she grew up believing that that is the only way to be. Subsequently, Olivia’s