Analysis Of Flamboyant Conflagration: The Invisible Violence Of Abandonment
Flamboyant Conflagration: The Invisible Violence of Abandonment and why it Constitutes Abuse
Abandonment is a harrowing, if often unintentional, form of abuse. So many abandonment survivors see abandonment as death, and they narrate that it robbed them typically permanently of any semblance of security. Done too early, done to a little child, the child will live in a state where she equates living with death.
A child’s worldview is seldom fixed. You can see evidence of this in how aggressively they attack nuance, how they remake the world into a black and white model, an avatar made solely of extremes and duality. They have many signposts, landmarks, and lighthouses-bright beacons in the darkness enabling them to scramble back to security when necessary. Abandonment extinguishes every single beacon. It erases the world of safety children crave, replacing it with a hostile untrustworthy one. Soldiers, armed, …show more content…
She goes on:
“If there's too much space in the early parent-child relationship, it's likely that the child will grow up with an ingrained fear of being abandoned or rejected. This person will be prone to grasping or clinging in intimate relationships.”
Licensed psychologist Nando Pelusi, PhD, says it's important not to raise hopes too high — people with abandonment issues want to feel full certainty that their relationships will always remain strong and steady, but in reality, nobody ever has that certainty. Here are a few tips he has given on overcoming abandonment.
• Identify why it affects you to the extent that it does. Abandonment is a complex issue. Similar to dealing with the death of a loved one, abandonment involves a deep sense of loss. Knowing why you hurt so badly is the first step in overcoming
Abandonment is a harrowing, if often unintentional, form of abuse. So many abandonment survivors see abandonment as death, and they narrate that it robbed them typically permanently of any semblance of security. Done too early, done to a little child, the child will live in a state where she equates living with death.
A child’s worldview is seldom fixed. You can see evidence of this in how aggressively they attack nuance, how they remake the world into a black and white model, an avatar made solely of extremes and duality. They have many signposts, landmarks, and lighthouses-bright beacons in the darkness enabling them to scramble back to security when necessary. Abandonment extinguishes every single beacon. It erases the world of safety children crave, replacing it with a hostile untrustworthy one. Soldiers, armed, …show more content…
She goes on:
“If there's too much space in the early parent-child relationship, it's likely that the child will grow up with an ingrained fear of being abandoned or rejected. This person will be prone to grasping or clinging in intimate relationships.”
Licensed psychologist Nando Pelusi, PhD, says it's important not to raise hopes too high — people with abandonment issues want to feel full certainty that their relationships will always remain strong and steady, but in reality, nobody ever has that certainty. Here are a few tips he has given on overcoming abandonment.
• Identify why it affects you to the extent that it does. Abandonment is a complex issue. Similar to dealing with the death of a loved one, abandonment involves a deep sense of loss. Knowing why you hurt so badly is the first step in overcoming