Analysis: Mature Vs. Immature Love
1. Couple Contact: Matthew Dan, dansongyuan@hotmail.com, 98291558 Alicia Heng, aliciaaa.heng@gmail.com, 90112167
2. Couple’s Background
Matthew and Alicia were classmates since their poly year started, in April 2016. However, it wasn’t only until their school trip to Malaysia in June that they got to know each other better. Matthew started chasing her when he found out he had feelings for her. They started dating 4 months after talking to one another, in July 2016.
3. Mature vs Immature Love
When asked what do they find attractive about their partner, Matthew described her as cheerful around her peers which acts as a positive vibe to him, and Alicia said that he is caring and thoughtful. This shows that both of them have a mature understanding …show more content…
He says that he wants her to understand that he trusts her fully. She shouldn’t stop communicating just because she’s dating him. Alicia’s reply was that she gets jealous easily. However, she does not get jealous if it was a group meeting of mixed genders instead. This shows that Alicia has an immature understanding of their relationship, but Matthew has a matured understanding of the relationship. Based on research by Susan Krauss “When jealousy is fueled by insecurity and turns into possessiveness, a relationship may take an unwanted turn.” (Susan Heitler, …show more content…
When asked to define commitment, Matthew states it is to prioritise the other party, while Alicia defined it as staying loyal and faithful with no slightest feeling for anyone else. When asked to define passion, Matthew says that it is to sacrifice for the other party while Alicia state that it is to keep the relationship going. Based on research by Robert Sternberg, commitment is the decision to devote oneself to a relationship, and to work to maintain it.
When asked to rank passion, commitment and intimacy, from most important to least. Matthew ranked them as passion, commitment and then intimacy, while Alicia ranked them as commitment, passion and intimacy. When asked why they, Matthew stated that it is to sacrifice and commit ourselves to our partner. Whereas, Alicia said that there should be loyalty and faithfulness in a relationship. As based on Robert Sternberg, the combination of passion and commitment gives you fatuous love. They are both leaning towards fatuous love, based on their ranking.
When asked how they would work things out if the ranking is different, Matthew said he would explain how he feels regarding this topic and hope Alicia understands, and Alicia agreed with Matthew.
5. Gender
2. Couple’s Background
Matthew and Alicia were classmates since their poly year started, in April 2016. However, it wasn’t only until their school trip to Malaysia in June that they got to know each other better. Matthew started chasing her when he found out he had feelings for her. They started dating 4 months after talking to one another, in July 2016.
3. Mature vs Immature Love
When asked what do they find attractive about their partner, Matthew described her as cheerful around her peers which acts as a positive vibe to him, and Alicia said that he is caring and thoughtful. This shows that both of them have a mature understanding …show more content…
He says that he wants her to understand that he trusts her fully. She shouldn’t stop communicating just because she’s dating him. Alicia’s reply was that she gets jealous easily. However, she does not get jealous if it was a group meeting of mixed genders instead. This shows that Alicia has an immature understanding of their relationship, but Matthew has a matured understanding of the relationship. Based on research by Susan Krauss “When jealousy is fueled by insecurity and turns into possessiveness, a relationship may take an unwanted turn.” (Susan Heitler, …show more content…
When asked to define commitment, Matthew states it is to prioritise the other party, while Alicia defined it as staying loyal and faithful with no slightest feeling for anyone else. When asked to define passion, Matthew says that it is to sacrifice for the other party while Alicia state that it is to keep the relationship going. Based on research by Robert Sternberg, commitment is the decision to devote oneself to a relationship, and to work to maintain it.
When asked to rank passion, commitment and intimacy, from most important to least. Matthew ranked them as passion, commitment and then intimacy, while Alicia ranked them as commitment, passion and intimacy. When asked why they, Matthew stated that it is to sacrifice and commit ourselves to our partner. Whereas, Alicia said that there should be loyalty and faithfulness in a relationship. As based on Robert Sternberg, the combination of passion and commitment gives you fatuous love. They are both leaning towards fatuous love, based on their ranking.
When asked how they would work things out if the ranking is different, Matthew said he would explain how he feels regarding this topic and hope Alicia understands, and Alicia agreed with Matthew.
5. Gender