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Virtual Love
The Disheartening Truth of Cyber Love
In her article “Virtual Love,” Meghan Daum, a freelance writer, claims people become to comfortable with the security that online communication provides. Daum, herself, experiences this first hand. Through Daum’s experience with PFSlider, she is able to inform her readers about the troubles that may arise if you become engulfed in e-mail affairs. Daum’s relationship simply began as a flattering e-mail written to her by Pete, an admirer who lived hundreds of miles away. After exchanging a few messages, Daum quickly developed feelings for him. Day in and day out they would converse with one another, both on the phone and online. As their relationship progressed, they both agreed that it would be a good idea to finally meet and have face-to-face communication. Pete flew out to visit Daum at her home in New York. While there, he attempted to kiss her but Daum turned him down because all she saw in Pete was a made up character. After this point, their relationship was flawed in such a way that could not be mended.
Despite her previous beliefs that cyber-talk was inhuman, Daum felt that the Internet had actually given her a more real relationship than any actual human had given her before. The distance between Daum and Pete had made it more comfortable to express their true feelings. Once they broke the boundaries of their online relationship and socialized face-to-face in the real world, they discovered the person they fell in love with was just a made up character. Because the physical world had proved itself to be too much for them, their relationship would never work beyond the computer screen.

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Daum, Meghan. “Virtual Love.” Writing and Reading Across the Curriculum Brief Edition Second Edition. Eds. Laurence Behrens and Leonard J. Rosen. New York: Pearson Longman, 2007. 137-145. Print.



Cited: Daum, Meghan. “Virtual Love.” Writing and Reading Across the Curriculum Brief Edition Second Edition. Eds. Laurence Behrens and Leonard J. Rosen. New York: Pearson Longman, 2007. 137-145. Print.

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