The Wonderful Monsters Society Has Created
The Wonderful Monster Society Has Created
Ken Shek
Lake Michigan College
The Wonderful Monster Society Has Created What is romantic love? People today have this obsession with jumping into marriage based on the feelings they have in the moment. There is a lot more to love than romance. Typically in first stage of a relationship, one is overcome by that magical feeling. They cannot get enough of that person when the dating process first starts. This is romance. People in the beginning of a relationship are more focused on how they can please their partner. When people are focused more on the other person in the relationship it creates a void. This void cannot be recognized early in the relationship. People do not generally understand the amount of effort a relationship truly takes. This is the reason for the extremely high divorce rate. The main focus of the relationship is the here and now. How does this person make you feel? Are they doing a good job? Early in the process there are signals people do not pay much attention to because in the moment they are getting what they feel they need. One thing about romance that a large number of people do not understand is that it requires a great deal of effort. If this effort is not put forth, inevitably romance will be lost. This creates a panic in the relationship and typically where people just throw in the towel. The reason for this is most people choose to take the path of least resistance. There is someone else out there that will be able to give them the brief sense of importance. And to them that is easier than putting forth the effort it takes to have an everlasting relationship. This leads to the idea of romantic love being a poor basis for marriage. Society has corrupted the institution of marriage through cultural expectations, the importance of commitment, and not understanding romantic love. So what is marriage? The institution of marriage most likely evolved as the best
Ken Shek
Lake Michigan College
The Wonderful Monster Society Has Created What is romantic love? People today have this obsession with jumping into marriage based on the feelings they have in the moment. There is a lot more to love than romance. Typically in first stage of a relationship, one is overcome by that magical feeling. They cannot get enough of that person when the dating process first starts. This is romance. People in the beginning of a relationship are more focused on how they can please their partner. When people are focused more on the other person in the relationship it creates a void. This void cannot be recognized early in the relationship. People do not generally understand the amount of effort a relationship truly takes. This is the reason for the extremely high divorce rate. The main focus of the relationship is the here and now. How does this person make you feel? Are they doing a good job? Early in the process there are signals people do not pay much attention to because in the moment they are getting what they feel they need. One thing about romance that a large number of people do not understand is that it requires a great deal of effort. If this effort is not put forth, inevitably romance will be lost. This creates a panic in the relationship and typically where people just throw in the towel. The reason for this is most people choose to take the path of least resistance. There is someone else out there that will be able to give them the brief sense of importance. And to them that is easier than putting forth the effort it takes to have an everlasting relationship. This leads to the idea of romantic love being a poor basis for marriage. Society has corrupted the institution of marriage through cultural expectations, the importance of commitment, and not understanding romantic love. So what is marriage? The institution of marriage most likely evolved as the best
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