A review of the choices made by each individual to the path of self-discovery in: Middlesex
Groups are assigned to every person that is associated with another individual. No matter when or where, people are trying to fit into a group that they want to belong in. There are stereotypical groups that could be categorized as fobs, hippies, thugs, or socialites. Gender is also an aspect that people judge through generations after generations. Fortunately, the first step to be acknowledged by others is by identifying oneself so that the comfortability level is suitable for the individual in that specific crowd. It is hinted in Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides where every man and woman wants to fit into a group where they naturally belong. This is because of the human nature man-kind posses in which the necessity of security can only be achieved when gathered in a pack. However to do so, each individual must self-identify themselves to be recognized. There will be difficulties that one may encounter when not acknowledged by others and the challenges they will face to self-discover their identity. Also, the experiences received from the journey to self discover the similarities and differences from others and how it can change the views of another by the choices one makes. In addition, the significance an individual can bring to the societies perspectives and ways of thinking to broaden their minds. In Jeffrey Eugenides’ Middlesex, the author explores the idea that every situation has an option in which the choices made by the individual will significantly lead them to understand their role in society of how it could be benefitted and the identity of oneself; experiencing the journey to self-discovery . There is many obstructions that an individual confronts especially when they are disregarded as an equal for being different; the defiance that one must counter to distinguish their role when one does not fit in. In fact, some citizens change their identity to fit into the society that it wants them to become so they are not discriminately judged by shallow minded communities. This is stated when Desdemona says, “’I had a brother,’ (…). ‘ He ran off with a Turkish girl. My father disowned him’” (67). Desdemona, who is indubitably religious, feels ashamed and guilty for loving her brother so she creates virtual fantasies of herself by narrating lies that insinuate reality. This is done to prevent others from scrutinizing their family relationship instead of the broader appearance of pure love relationships that the two siblings want to portray, so they are not disgraced upon for feeling a certain way that is taboo in society. Subsequently, the characters in the novel tend to be judged because of the way they think that may be moral in their sense of judgement. In fact, cal knows that “any girl suspected of being attracted to girls was gossiped about, victimized, and shunned” (327). Regardless of the societal beliefs, every individual has a preference of their own likings and their feelings cannot change due to the hormones stimulated within the bodies. As stated in the quote, people develop feelings overtime towards same sex when not associated with opposite sex genders which causes “abnormal” feelings. Due to such feelings, the characters in the novel are segregated from other social means and looked down upon. In some cases, hiding and running away from the issue can be a great escape but it doesn’t solve the problem at hand which leads to more disaster. Nonetheless, it is understandable that one may be unwelcomed due to the differences; hence they avoid the problem entirely. In the salon, Cal thinks to herself: What could I tell her? That that was the whole point of having long hair? To keep it in my face? (…). Maybe I was even starting to bear a strong resemblance to our weeping willow trees. But there were virtues to my hair. It covered tinsel teeth. It covered satyrical nose. It hid blemishes and, best of all, it hid me....
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