Loss and Bereavement
The loss of someone close can be a very painful experience. When someone passes over to the other side, the people they leave behind are left grief-stricken. The process they go through is called bereavement or another word, people may use is called in mourning. This all depends on what beliefs the bereaved may have on dying. Different religions cope with mortality in different ways. The Buddhist religion believes in recoronation (life after death) so when a person dies the Buddhists believe that the dearly departed will come back in another life form.
So what is the meaning of bereavement? Bereavement is the emotion, which everybody goes through one time or another in their life time. When someone dies the bereaved will experience the stages of bereavement, whether it is a death of a pet, someone in their family or someone who is close. A death of a son or daughter is very heartbreaking, its one of the worst pain, a parent could ever go through in his or her entire life. Parents believe that they should out live their sons or daughters and when the child passes away before they do it comes as a big shock. When a child dies, the parents are forever picking up the pieces for a long time after the death. As the years go by other people have less pain and appear to accept the death of the child where a parent will still feel the same hurt for the rest of their lives. There is always a place missing in their hearts and it cannot be fulfilled by anyone. These questions are still asked by the parents who have been bereaved through a child. Did I really have the child I lost or was I dreaming? Will all my memories start to deteriorate as time passes by? Am I going to wake up from this nightmare? When certain times of the year come round, e.g. birthdays of the deceased, mother's day, father's day, Christmas and the anniversary of the day the deceased departed from this existence. At any of these times of the year it can be very agonizing for the parent of the deceased. It does not matter how long ago the child has been deceased for, the memories will always be there and the agony they went through at that particular time when their child passed over to the other side. Time is supposed to be a great healer in situations like this. This is not always the case. The parent learns to live with the pain of losing a child. Some days are better then other days. Near the time of a certain date that could be relevant to the child. The parent might get mood swings, bouts of depression or get withdrawal symptoms. The parent may not realize the date and there for it could be their subconscious getting them ready, a warning sign.
In my essay I will be looking at the five stages of dying researched by Elisabeth Kubler-ross. The five stages of dying are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. I will look at some other theories on dying and bereavement. I will compare how the five stages of dying can be used for other situations in society
"Elisabeth Kubler-Ross is a medical doctor, psychiatrist and internationally renowned thanatologist" (Kubler-Ross. E.1983. New York) Dr Kubler-Ross believes that there are five stages of dying. She based her research on patients she worked with. Her patients, she was doing her research on were terminally ill. The patients were preparing for there own deaths. This is called anticipatory grief. When Dr Klubler-ross was analysing her patients behaviour, she theorized the five stages of the dying process. This theory could also be used for a parent who has been told that their child has a terminal illness. The first stage of the dying process is denial. When a parent finds out that their son or daughter has a terminal illness. They find it hard to come to terms with the news so they seek for a second opinion. They also may think that their childe's hospital records have got mixed up with...
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