How the Death of a Family Member Affects Their Survivors
The loss of a loved one is a very sensitive topic for most people. Death can come in many forms; someone can be terminally ill, can get sick all of a sudden, or even a traumatic accident. Sometimes one may feel like their world is ending. The fact is each of us will die; it is just a matter of time. No matter what way a loved one dies, it is always hard on the people they left behind.
Hurt is the only feeling one gets when they are told that a loved one has died. As stated in The Last Dance: Encountering Death and Dying, “The anguish of loss is overpowering and vast.” (DeSpelder 306) Grief is something that we have to naturally go through. Coping with death is not easy, and it takes a lot of love from family and friends to get through the tough times. (Harvey 67) Everyone grieves in his or her own way; one person may cry constantly, become too upset to eat, and even not sleep well, while another may experience grief at a lesser extent. (Shaw 98) People who study grief and death explain that the age of the person who dies relates to the intensity of grief. (Shaw 99) Not only does age of the person play a factor, but also if the death is sudden or prolonged.
As anyone knows, death in all forms is traumatic. Shaw states, “Death by suicide, accident, or man made disaster can take even a greater toll on the family.” (Shaw 71) With traumatic deaths, the family will be in shock, show anger, and have guilt, anxiety, and fear. (Shaw 108) When something traumatic happens suddenly, it can cause someone to feel like they have been torn apart, “An unexpected, accidental, or sudden death can be compared to having one’s spirit sliced into one-inch cubes with a switchblade.” (Shaw 70) This quote is so true, and anyone who has been in this situation has most likely felt this.
Seeing a loved one suffer may be hard, but letting go is sometimes the hardest thing to do. Sudden deaths do leave survivors...
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