SPEAK MORE EFFECTIVELY By Dale Carnegie
Part One: Public Speaking A Quick and Easy Way
By Dale Carnegie This booklet reveals the secrets of effective speaking that it took me over 40 years to discover. I have tried to tell you these secrets simply and clearly and to illustrate them vividly. I urge you to carry this booklet with you and to read it at least three times next week. Read it; study it; underscore the vital parts.
Copyright © 2008 Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved.
PART ONE: PuBLIC SPEAKINg – A QuICK AND EASY WAY
You may be saying to yourself: “Is there really a quick and easy way to learn to speak in public—or is that merely an intriguing title that promises more than it delivers?” No, I am not exaggerating. I am really going to let you in on a vital secret—a secret that will make it easier for you to speak in public immediately. Where did I discover this? In some book? No. In some college course in public speaking? No. I never even heard it mentioned there. I had to discover it the hard way— gradually, slowly, painfully. If, back in my college days, someone had given me this password to effective speaking and writing,
I could have saved myself years and years of wasted, heartbreaking effort. For example, I once wrote a book about Lincoln; and while writing it, I threw into the wastebasket at least a year of wasted effort that might have been saved had I known the great secrets that I am going to divulge to you. The same thing happened when I spent two years trying to write a novel. It happened again while writing a book on public speaking—another year of wasted effort thrown into the wastebasket because I didn’t know the secrets of successful writing and speaking.
IF POSSIBLE, SPEND YEARS IN PREPARATION
What are these priceless secrets that I have been dangling before your eyes? Just this: talk about something that you have earned the right to talk about through long study or experience. Talk about
something that you know and know that you know. Don’t spend ten minutes or ten hours preparing a talk: spend ten weeks or ten months. Better still, spend ten years. Talk about something that has aroused your interest. Talk about something that you have a deep desire to communicate to your listeners. To illustrate what I mean, let’s take the case of Gay Kellogg, a housewife from Roselle, New Jersey. Gay Kellogg had never made a speech in public before she joined one of our classes in New York. She was terrified. She feared that public speaking might be an obscure art far beyond her abilities. Yet at the fourth session of the course, as she made an impromptu talk, she held the audience spellbound. I asked her to speak on “The Biggest Regret of My Life.” Gay Kellogg then made a talk that was deeply moving. The listeners could hardly keep the tears back. I know. I could hardly keep the tears from welling up in my own eyes. Her talk went like this: “The biggest regret of my life is that I never knew a mother’s love. My mother died when I was only a year old. I was brought up by a succession of aunts and other relatives who were so absorbed in their own children that they had no time for me. I never stayed with any of them very long. They were always sorry to see me come and glad to see me go.
They never took any interest in me or gave me any affection. I knew I wasn’t wanted. Even as a little child I could feel it. I often cried myself to sleep because of loneliness. The deepest desire of my heart was to have someone ask to see my report card from school. But no one ever did. No one cared. All I craved as a little child was love—and no one ever gave it to me.” Had Gay Kellogg spent ten years preparing that talk? No. She had spent twenty years. She had been preparing herself to make that talk when she cried herself to sleep as a little child. She had been preparing herself to make that talk when her heart ached because no one asked to see her report card from...
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