Communication Analysis Paper
19 March 2012
The Language of Friendship: an Analytical Essay
No matter who you are or where you live, if you were to spin a globe and point to any arbitrary place, land or sea, you are guaranteed to have something in common with who/what may be native to that area. Whether one uses gestures to create nonverbal messages or can verbally express their ideas, they are contributing to the worldwide epidemic of communication. Communication is one of the most important factors of relationship building. Without two people being able to convey feelings and emotions to one another, the connection cannot prosper. Thankfully, communicating with my best friend Sarah has always seemed like second nature. Sarah and I have been best friends for almost 5 years now. We met through a mutual friend during my freshman year of high school. When things got rough and I thought I was going to crumble under the pressure of tests, SATs, applying to colleges and keeping my GPA up, she was there to balance out my stress with many laughs. Still to this day she is the first person I run to for advice and guidance. When I first met Sarah, I was a little shy because we appeared to be from two totally different worlds. I judged her based off of the group of people she hung out with. I figured she must be just like them and if that were the case, we’d never get along. “Perceptions of others strongly influence how we respond to and communicate about them” (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.27). This refers to the procedure of selection, organization, and interpretation of the information you collect through your senses. Selection can be affected by the features of a person you encountered. Since Sarah, like her other friends, was wearing basketball shorts and a t-shirt, I assumed they were going to have more in common than they actually did. Luckily, I was wrong and she turned out to be an awesome person with a great personality! Organization is broken into 2 categories: cognitive representation and categorization (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.28). Cognitive gives humans the capacity to make mental models of the world (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.28). It can be related to guidelines that allow people to recognize what to do in certain situations. When I first saw Sarah and the type of people she hung out with, my initial thought was to walk away because these weren’t the type of people I usually associated myself with. Although I was uncomfortable with the change at first, I remembered how important it is to not judge a person off of appearance and I decided to stay and hang out for a while. People typically categorize one another into different groups and assign them a label (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.30). Although most of my friends were theatre dorks, like me, I never really hung out with a tomboy before, which Sarah is. Again, I had to keep reminding myself not to be prejudice, or have a negative feeling toward someone because he/she belongs to a group, because I didn’t truly know her (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.45). While we hung out, I relied greatly on my interpersonal script, or a guide for how to act in certain situations (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.29). I have met many new people before meeting Sarah so I just went through the motions in my head, remembering what is and is not appropriate when coming in contact with someone for the very first time. Usually when someone meets another person for the first time, they make an inference, or draw a conclusion based on the information around them (Alberts, Martin & Nakayama, 2011, p.31). Since the first place where Sarah and I met was at a park, I assumed that she would be someone who I could share my love for the outdoors with. I was very happy to have made a new friend. I can relate this to external causes, something that is situational, because when people saw...
References: Alberts, J. K., Martin, J. N., & Nakayama, T. K. (2011). Communication Fundamentals. Boston, Massachusetts: Allyn & Bacon.
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