"He who scorns instruction will pay for it, but he who respects a command is rewarded." Proverbs 13:12-14 NIV. There are only forty five instances of the word respect in the NIV bible. I try to live my life as though I were being watched by God Himself, because I believe that I am. I try, and hopefully achieve, to show respect to all people, NCOs and Officers, I even call civilians "sir" and "ma'am." As a Christian I know that I am an example for God, and the only way some people will ever see God is through me; my actions and words. I know the power that God has in my life and how He would like for me to act by constantly talking to me. Some people call the voice of God their "conscience," a feeling or a still, small voice that they "should have listened to." My wife is a very spiritual person and hears the voice of God clearly, like a person's voice and not a still, small one. She often acts as my guide in matters that I am facing, and if I don't listen to her advice, it often ends badly. I say that to say that I once had a problem with respect and saw my superiors as only the people that they were and not the rank or position that they held. She warned me to start to treat my superiors with the respect that they get as a certain rank and not normal people; she would not have said if God had not had talked to her because she is a civilian and knows very little about the ways of the military.
Respect by definition is the "willingness to show consideration or appreciation." In terms of military respect, as in the LDRSHIP acronym, respect is to "Treat people as they should be treated." And in the soldiers code, we swear an oath to "treat others with dignity and respect while expecting others to do the same." With respect being defined so many ways, how is one to tell which to choose from? A seemingly obvious answer is the "Army's way." But to those who serve a higher calling it would be God's way, or even the non-believing military rationalists might word respect different. Though the grasp on the true definition for respect is put so many ways, it is a true attitude a person shows another in respect, regard, or preference to their grade, position, or stature.
Though a person leads his/her life showing respect toward others, they may have a hard time getting the respect back from those that he/she has shown, and continues to show, the respect to. Respect should be a two-way street, in my opinion, to achieve maximum affect for all parties. "Show those with the same respect that they show you" is a common "new" military idea, to curse at if you were cursed at, to push if you were pushed. I feel that a person should get what they give; such as, if a person is constantly degrading people and belittling them, then they should not be surprised if they get the same treatment in return. On the same scale, if as a superior, you get upset with a soldier and start to disrespect them out of anger, then you should not expect to get respect in return. But my belief in Christ out rules the ways of normal behavior and thinking, I try to remain respectful even if I am being respected. Many people see it as a weakness, something to be ashamed about as a leader. I feel that it shows self control, a collectiveness that most people will neither possess nor will ever understand. A "level-headedness, cool under fire" sort of attitude.
In this given situation, however, even if a certain person, i.e., NCO, a SSG to be exact, feels that they were disrespected because they were contacted by a certain Sgt's spouse, then that SSG should have brought the issue up with that particular person in which contacted him or her. There is such a thing as free speech by the civilian sectors, not necessary in the military itself, but as a civilian they are entitled to the right of free speech. And if an alert roster is given out and the spouse has access to it, anyone's individual phone number could be looked up and called. If this basic freedom were...
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