Foundations Of A Family Resilience Approach

Hye Hyun Kim
CDFS 319-01
Journal 4 When I read Foundations of a Family Resilience Approach, I felt depressed because my family doesn’t have resilience at all. Whenever we have a problem, we really don’t care about it. I am not sure why my family doesn’t even talk about problems; maybe it is because we are typical Asian family who actually don’t talk much. My father tends to talk less even though he talks with his friends on Chinese Facebook. My mother tends to talk more than he does, but she also tries to look everything is okay. Although we face a financial problem or a death of grandmother, we didn’t talk each other. Because I grew up with quiet parents, I also don’t want to talk about my hardships or any problems to my family. My older sister is too emotional and gets angry so easily, so we try to not talk face to face when we have a problem. I think my family don’t have a serious crisis, but also don’t have intimacy. I see this is a quiet crisis because we as a family don’t seem like a real family. We don’t have resilience because we don’t look like a family, and I want to fix it. My family doesn’t look like a family because of our role conflict. In the article, it says that roles help the family function and develop. My father is patriarchal and conservative so he
Since my family lacks communication, we can’t take balanced roles and have a health relationship. One thing that scares me is that family have a lot in common and it remains the same down through the ages. I realized that my father’s personality and value are influenced by his home. My mother’s are influenced by her home. Then, my personality and value will be influenced by my parents and it will remain the same down through my children and grandchildren. I will definitely change my family’s roles and rules so I can lave my value and other personality to my