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The Filipino Family
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Introduction
The Filipino Family is the basic unit of Philippine society. Education is merely an extension of the family circle. There should be strong child-parent-school relations through cooperation, coordination and transparency.
Courtship and Marriage
Every society has some kind of courtship, system which precedes marriage.
Society’s mores and values change due to certain influences which impinge on our social processes.
Courtship is either arranged by parent or kinsmen; or by the participating parties themselves.

1. Courtship Among Early Filipinos
Courtship, mating and divorce among early Filipinos revolved around the dowry or bride price.
The dowry was the gift from the groom or his family to be given to the bride’s family presumably to compensate for the care and the cost of the upbringing of the bride.
Dowry had several function:
a) It signified the good intentions of the young bridegroom in the same sense that earnest money is used in a business transaction.
b) It signified the financial status of both the bride and the groom as a sort of prestige-giving conspicuous consumption.
c) It also signified a welcome gesture and acceptance of the bride to the groom’s family.
d) Since the dowry was usually a contribution “ambagan” of the groom’s family and his nearest kinsmen who might wield power and influence, might put pressure on the couple to make their marriage success.
Compadrazco System - Follows that of the kinship arrangement, giving the “ninong” and “ninang” similar obligations and concern accorded the newly married couple.
Contemporary Philippine Society
The bride-groom and his family and kin assume full responsibility for the wedding preparations, including the bride’s wedding dress, church fees, reception and almost all major expenses of the wedding.
In the West
Some brides would feel socially disgraced to let the groom assume any wedding expenses except the purchase of the wedding ring.
In the

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