A Reaction to Odd Girl Out

The subject of girl aggression or bullying needs to be more looked upon among girls of any age. Girls are pushed aside as they are thought of going through a “phase” if they spread rumors or shoot dirty looks. Boys draw more attention since they go resolve their problems directly by fighting or even calling someone out. Adults usually go correct their fights and problems to show them it’s not the right way to be. The girls are left alone as they continue picking on each other secretly. Others girls may fight directly too, but this is rarely seen in most schools. I’ve been observing everyone a little more closely during the last month at school. I’ve overheard girls talking about others; I’ve experienced some of it, and even gave my own comments through the grapevine. It may not seem that way because I’m “shy and nice” during the school hours. Every girl wants to show that “good girl” image so they can be more like-able and have more friends. This really does apply to me since my self-esteem has its ups and downs. I want to be liked so I either avoid conflict or become the peacemaker when necessary. You don’t want someone to know that you could be the source of a huge war. It could ruin your reputation and cause others to judge you differently. The slightest thing can be misinterpreted to a girl as she is trying to become friends with others in a group. I’m guilty of this after I picked my group for a lab in Food Management. I wanted to be with a friend I knew since I was comfortable talking to her. Yet, she ended up scribbling her name in the last spots for a group with her other friends. I chose the remaining group and was positive that these girls would be nice just like everyone else. I was completely wrong. I was trying to cook the eggs I was assigned to as I asked questions to certain girl. She was kind of snappy as she told me I should “stop asking for approval.” Well, I was just making sure this lab was being done properly. She was acting like she knew