Verbal Abuse
Te’Andra Townsend
Brenda Rivera
Developmental Writing II- ENGL 0307
22March2012
Effects of Verbal Abuse
In many domestic relationships, there is a secret that is often not acknowledged by anyone beyond their home. Inside these relationships, one person may take on the more dominant role but some use the position of power to become abusive to their spouse. The most common form of abuse between married couples is verbal. The effects of verbal abuse among a family includes the abuser who is unseeing to their actions, their spouse that endures the abuse and their children whom observe and may fall victim to the abuse as well.
While being verbally abusive, the abuser does not feel any impact of the effects of what he/she is doing to their spouse and their children. Majority of abusers are blind to their behavior, they use conflicts and words to emotionally breakdown their victims on a daily basis. Frequently not noticed by other family members or friends of the victim, an abuser can seem friendly and trustworthy by other outsiders. In the beginning of the relationship, the abuser does not make their problem evident until after they feel their spouse is completely theirs. An abuser perceives their spouse as a reflection of what is missing within them. The abuser feels that they are entitled to give orders and known to try to define how their spouse thinks and feels. To an abuser this kind of behavior is considered “normal”, their irrational philosophy causes them feel threatened if their spouse does not walk, talk, or think like the abuser.
As a result, the spouse existing in a verbally abusive relationship can be manipulated to consider that the way they are being treated is their fault. This method of abuse on a spouse can be more damaging than physical abuse. Hurt feelings and issues seem never to be resolved because the victim chooses not to challenge their abuser. The person rendering the abuse habitually claims they are opinion is more important
Brenda Rivera
Developmental Writing II- ENGL 0307
22March2012
Effects of Verbal Abuse
In many domestic relationships, there is a secret that is often not acknowledged by anyone beyond their home. Inside these relationships, one person may take on the more dominant role but some use the position of power to become abusive to their spouse. The most common form of abuse between married couples is verbal. The effects of verbal abuse among a family includes the abuser who is unseeing to their actions, their spouse that endures the abuse and their children whom observe and may fall victim to the abuse as well.
While being verbally abusive, the abuser does not feel any impact of the effects of what he/she is doing to their spouse and their children. Majority of abusers are blind to their behavior, they use conflicts and words to emotionally breakdown their victims on a daily basis. Frequently not noticed by other family members or friends of the victim, an abuser can seem friendly and trustworthy by other outsiders. In the beginning of the relationship, the abuser does not make their problem evident until after they feel their spouse is completely theirs. An abuser perceives their spouse as a reflection of what is missing within them. The abuser feels that they are entitled to give orders and known to try to define how their spouse thinks and feels. To an abuser this kind of behavior is considered “normal”, their irrational philosophy causes them feel threatened if their spouse does not walk, talk, or think like the abuser.
As a result, the spouse existing in a verbally abusive relationship can be manipulated to consider that the way they are being treated is their fault. This method of abuse on a spouse can be more damaging than physical abuse. Hurt feelings and issues seem never to be resolved because the victim chooses not to challenge their abuser. The person rendering the abuse habitually claims they are opinion is more important
Cited: Bunch, Charlotte. The Intolerable Staus quo: Violence against women and girls. The Progress of Nations 1997. UNICEF. n.d. Web. 1 Oct. 2011. Verbal Abuse presentation given by Patricia Evans; www.verbalabuse.com Web.1999