Single Parents

Single Parents Single-parent families have advantages and disadvantages. The effects are different in single-parent families than those of two parent families. Kids that have just one parent living with them may struggle with not being able to see the other parent all the time or at all. Parents of a single-parent family might struggle with money issues. There is a noticeable difference between having two parents that are there all the time and only one parent. Also, when the parents break up and it becomes a single- parent family, the break up leaves drastic effects on the children. Children have a difficult time because it might not affect them right away but, in time it will.

First, I am going to explain the parent’s perspective on the situation and how parents react to a single parent family. Parents usually do not take into consideration the feelings of the children that are in the situation. Parents sometimes take the children’s feeling into consideration but, most of the time not. When parents break up they break a family. Families fall apart every day because of parents wanting to be single again. The problem with parents in single parent families is that they just want to be happy. They do not take into consideration anybody’s feelings besides their own. Parents that are able to be civilized in public take their kids feelings into consideration even though they do not want to be around each other; they put up with each other because they have to for their kids. Although, there are some parents that will not take the children into careful thought, when they go out and fight in public with each other. Parents think that the children have it good, but the children get hurt in a single parent family.

Secondly, I am going to explain the kid’s perspective on things. Kids are vulnerable, they need to be cared for and thought about. If people do not think about the children’s feelings they are going to resent you for it. The children might not act like they care but, they do. In the perspective of the kids is that little kids do not know what is going on but they will know when they get older. Divorce is something is not right in their life and they will ask questions. Older kids on the other hand will tell a person how they feel about the situation. That is when you should take the child's view into consideration. The children in this opinion have a harder way to go in a single parent family. The children do not get the treatment they deserve with all the parents moving and everything. They just get threw around like they are toys. Children always think their parents will not go anywhere and they get to thinking if they do go somewhere; they get to thinking why did they go. Finally, in my own personal opinion I think my life would be better in a single parent family in ways but, in others I am glad I have two parents. I'm glad I have two parents because I only have one place to go and do not have to switch from one place to another all the time. On the other hand, sometimes I would like my parents to divorce so they would not fight as much as they do Although, I wish this sometimes, I still love my parents and would most likely be heartbroken if something ever happened. My parents have talked about getting a divorce, but I am glad they did not because that would mean my world would be flipped upside down. My parents would not consider my feelings in the least bit. That is why it is important to communicate with the kids and ask them how it will affect them. In conclusion, children do not get the treatment they would if they lived with both parents. It might not affect the kids right away, but in time it will. Children might not act like it affects them, but they are really good at hiding their feelings. If you are going to be a single parent please take the children’s feelings into consideration. They will respect you more if you do. You do not want to leave your kids out of the decisions. Children are smarter than people give them credit for. Parents, even if you do not listen to the kid’s perspective, you could at least ask them. Parents and children both get hurt in a single parent situation, and the life is hard for both. If you can handle you should not make a child go through this.