John and Elizabeth Proctor: Relationship

In reading this passage, from Arthur Miller’s The Crucible, I have come to believe that John’s relationship with Elizabeth and Elizabeth’s relationship with John are two completely different things. Elizabeth’s relationship seems more at ease, a little distant, untrusting, but yet non-judgmental. Now John’s relationship seems to be passionate about arguing, trusting, a little judgmental (of self), and regret. But similarly they have love in common.
First up is Elizabeth’s relationship with John because it seems to have more of an impact in the story line. This relationship seems distant, relaxed, untrusting and not judgmental. Distant because of the fact that throughout the whole argument Elizabeth stays cool and relaxed, not becoming heated unlike John, distant can mean a variety of things but mainly it means to be disconnected from. I believe that Elizabeth’s relationship with John is at a serious disconnection, mainly from John’s mistake. The word relaxed fits with distant because this whole time Elizabeth remains in a calm state when she probably wants to kill John. The untrusting comes from John’s mistake of cheating with Abigail Williams (who is historically 11 years old but, in the Crucible by Arthur Miller, she is 17 years of age). Yet, Elizabeth remains non-judgmental of John and just asks questions, not trying to judge him by his answers but trying to understand his reasoning of the question.
Next, on the opposite side, is John’s relationship with Elizabeth that is filled with a passion for arguing judgment, trust, self-judgment and regret. The passion for arguing judgment arose because while reading through the text I noticed that the one thing John brought up quite a few times were telling Elizabeth not to judge him but to instead judge herself. I think that John said this not because he believed that she was judging him but because he would rather have her judging him than himself doing the judgment because he thought or hoped she wouldn’t be as