Coping Mechanisms of Students Staying in Boarding Houses
THE PROBLEM: ITS BACKGROUND AND RATIONALE
Background of the Study All persons are, in one way or another, concerned with making their lives happier and more effective. Students have varied reasons for attending college. Some wish to prepare for a chosen professional career. Others desire to broaden their knowledge and competence so they can more wisely choose their lifework. Many hope to build a firm general foundation for whatever career is readily available. A few go to make their parents happy; some may wish to “keep in the swim” with their friends. (Lazarus, 1976). Teenagers are always protected by parents; they are the ones who decide for what they should be and what must be done and what must be their choices in life. They are always dependent on their mother or father to make decisions. Being a student living far from parents and making decisions out of you would be very hard; especially if it is the first time you will be leaving the way you used to live your life. Without the parents’ daily advices, there are of course some decisions that are hard to decide whether you make this or that, there are circumstances after that. The students staying in boarding houses would be a little worry of their life in a place where he or she does not know anything to a person he or she will be living with for a period of time. (Lazarus, 1976). According to Lazarus (1976) many college students fail to achieve the maximum of happiness and efficacy in college because they are homesick. Perhaps they have never before been away from home for a prolonged period. Ideally they should have been prepared for attendance at college by having been weaned away from home by previous shorter periods of separation. It is important for the students to experience an actual separation to loved ones because it will help them realize that it is a good opportunity for them to live independently and for their own growth and development as a matured person. In this time, they will
Background of the Study All persons are, in one way or another, concerned with making their lives happier and more effective. Students have varied reasons for attending college. Some wish to prepare for a chosen professional career. Others desire to broaden their knowledge and competence so they can more wisely choose their lifework. Many hope to build a firm general foundation for whatever career is readily available. A few go to make their parents happy; some may wish to “keep in the swim” with their friends. (Lazarus, 1976). Teenagers are always protected by parents; they are the ones who decide for what they should be and what must be done and what must be their choices in life. They are always dependent on their mother or father to make decisions. Being a student living far from parents and making decisions out of you would be very hard; especially if it is the first time you will be leaving the way you used to live your life. Without the parents’ daily advices, there are of course some decisions that are hard to decide whether you make this or that, there are circumstances after that. The students staying in boarding houses would be a little worry of their life in a place where he or she does not know anything to a person he or she will be living with for a period of time. (Lazarus, 1976). According to Lazarus (1976) many college students fail to achieve the maximum of happiness and efficacy in college because they are homesick. Perhaps they have never before been away from home for a prolonged period. Ideally they should have been prepared for attendance at college by having been weaned away from home by previous shorter periods of separation. It is important for the students to experience an actual separation to loved ones because it will help them realize that it is a good opportunity for them to live independently and for their own growth and development as a matured person. In this time, they will