Deborah Tannen is the author of the book You Just Don’t Understand where she analyzes the different meanings of communication between men and women. Her research shows that women and men use the same words and phrases and yet can interpret and react to those same words and phrases differently. Tannen compares the two sexes to find men use their conversation as a type of competition or to preserve their independence. For example‚ men talk about their knowledge regarding sports‚ cars‚ women‚ exc
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Ap English Tannen Essay Section 1: Theory You Just Don’t Understand Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen is basically an explanation on how women and men converse. Tannens main goal is to give advice to the different genders in order for them to avoid as much conflict as possible. Tannen’s main ideas are to explain how differently women and men react to each other’s way of being. It’s like they’re in their own little world while living in the same big world. Men tend to try to dominate
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The Argument Culture In Deborah Tannen’s article “The Argument Culture‚” she states that argument and debate “urge us to approach the world‚ and the people in it‚ in an adversarial frame of mine.” She calls this new norm of society “The argument culture”. The argument culture “rests on the assumption that opposition is the best way to get anything done”. Tannen uses the metaphor of an arguing spouse to convey the idea that society needs act more like a married couple to find a more constructive
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Can differences in communication between men and women be defined as black and white? Deborah Tannen’s essay “But What Do You Mean” divided the biggest areas of miscommunication between men and women into seven categories‚ three of which caught my attention for personal reasons. As examined‚ women have a habit of apologizing to maintain a pleasant atmosphere. Tannen expressed how men and women react to complaints‚ as well. Jokes were also discussed‚ suggesting that men razz each other to maintain
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In the article‚ “But What Do You Mean?”‚ author Deborah Tannen discusses what she has observed to be differences in ways that women and men communicate. She concludes by stating that neither communication style in incorrect‚ however‚ to alleviate miscommunication women and men should use language that is understood by both parties. While I don’t disagree with Tannen’s observations I find some flaws with her solution. Women and men are not significantly different‚ as recent brain studies have shown
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Deborah Tannen once said‚ “Conversation between women and men is cross-cultural communication.” By this‚ she is trying to explain that both men and women speak in different manners. The same exact thing applies to age‚ ethnicity‚ gender‚ race‚ geography‚ subculture‚ language‚ and occupation. The way one perceives their words is distinguished by their past along with various other reasoning’s. It’s also part of our human nature to adapt to certain communication styles based on the ways we were brought
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Jessica Warren Professor Holly Foster English 111-09H June 13‚ 2014 Arguing: An Always Present Force Dr. Tannen is a professor of linguistics at Georgetown University. Her study of language and how it is utilized has led her to have many books on the “Best-Selling” List. In her book‚ “The Argument Culture”‚ Deborah Tannen takes a closer look at how we as a society have come to view arguing/debating as a normal form of communication. Our inability to look at more than two views at a time‚
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Summary of “Understanding Mom” In the article “Understanding Mom”‚ author Deborah Tannen conveys the relationship between her mother and herself‚ and the difference in personal values between the generations. Mrs. Tannen wanted an ordinary life for her daughter‚ whereas she wanted anything but ordinary. This may have caused disagreements through Tannen’s life growing up so differently than her mother. As she expresses her disregard for makeup‚ her mother insists she wear it when in
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Malcolm X v.s. Deborah Tannen Malcolm X and Deborah Tannen developed their ideas forty years apart. “Malcolm Little” was Malcolm X’s nick name (Malcolm X 85). Born in Omaha‚ Nebraska‚ in 1925‚ Malcolm X rose from a world of street crime to become one of the most powerful and articulate African American leaders in the United States during the 1960’s (Malcolm X 85). Born in 1945 in Brooklyn was Deborah Tannen (Tannen 192). She taught in different countries‚ different states and many different
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conversation” Deborah Tannen deliberates about the variance in communication styles between men and women and how it originates the many problems in relationships and marriages leading to separation and divorce of most couples. There is more to communication differences than just basic stereotypes about the two genders‚ Deborah gives examples‚ experimental results and researches conducted to analyze and explain communication behaviors and skills of both men and women to better understand the different
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