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Why Marriages Fail by Anne Roiphe
Dr.Kwa
English-120
10/27/2014
Essay #3
Married Couples

Marriages can have their ups and downs, they can even last up to decades. In the reading, Why Marriages Fail, by Anne Roiphe explains how couples have discrepancies towards one another, it can lead to marital issues, and divorce. Although Roiphe explains the issues about marriages, it also relates to the song “03 Bonnie & Clyde”, by Jay-Z featuring Beyonce. In the song “03 Bonnie & Clyde,” by Jay-Z featuring Beyonce gives a depth explanation about their love, and affection towards one another. In the song lyrics, verse number one, Jay-Z writes, “Whatever she lacks, I’m right over her shoulder when I’m off track mami is keeping me focused se let’s lock this down like it’s supposed to be ’03 Bonnie & Clyde, Hov’ and B”. Jay-Z makes it clear that he has his partners back, as well as she would have his, regardless what the situation is. The song also relates to a quote in the reading “Why Marriages Fail,” by Anne Roiphe, she explains how couples share similar affection towards one another, Roiphe writes, “ The struggle to survive in marriage requires adaptability, flexibility, genuine love and kindness and an imagination strong enough to feel what the other is feeling.” The quote shows similar relation the song because Roiphe explains the elements for a relationship or marriages to work, and that is what Jay-Z is explaining how he and Beyonce have each other’s backs. Love comes in many expressions, either physically or visually. Although many couples fall in love and share their life together many of them land in arguments, and even divorce. In the song ’03 Bonnie & Clyde, by Jay-Z featuring Beyonce, Beyonce writes, “If I was your girlfriend I’ll be there for you, if somebody hurts you even if that somebody’s me.” Beyonce’s verse explains how even though you can have a beautiful relationship with your partner negative things can still happen. Anne Roiphe also explains the negative side of marriages, Ropihe

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