Some Things in Life are Worth Getting Messy For
Harry and Sally meet when she gives him a ride to New York City after they both graduate from the University of Chicago. The movie follows each of their lives, while they search for love, constantly running into one another throughout the years. They finally develop a friendship, and enjoy having a friend of the opposite sex to hang out with and confide in. But through time and trials they are confronted with Harry’s theory about men and women: “Can a man and a woman be friends, without sex getting in the way?" With Harry and Sally, a clear relationship parameter was set, which couldn’t be broken or crossed without ramifications to their relationship. The relationship between Harry and Sally developed throughout encounters they had with one another at different stages in their lives. A once barely tolerated acquaintance bloomed into a close friendship. They created a tight knit Dyad, which is “a two person group where they relied on one another for emotional support, advice and companionship” (Barkan). Harry quickly became the expressive leader of their group, which is described in our text as “a leader whose main focus is to maintain and improve the quality of relationships amongst group members” (Barkan). Through Harry and Sally’s friendship, they created a social group with their close friends Marie and Jess, which allowed for a social network to be opened up between the four of them. This social network allowed for walls to be torn down that revealed Marie and Jess to one another, where if not for Harry and Sally they might never had found one another. Harry and Sally each took on roles in their friendship. A role is “a behavior expected of an individual in a particular status” (Barkan). To Sally, Harry was a friend of the opposite sex she could depend on, confide in, have companionship in, with no strings attached. He was her “alternate” guy she could always go to. Case in point, they had an...
Cited: Barkan, Steven E. Sociology: Understanding and Changing the Social World. Brief ed. Vol. 1.0. Irvington, New York: Flat World Knowledge, Inc. Print.
When Harry Met Sally. Dir. Rob Reiner. Perf. Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan. Castle Rock Entertainment. 1989. DVD.
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