When Harry Met Sally Background of Characters and Episode
Harry and Sally’s relationship has developed into a stabilized friendship. They arrive at Jess and Marie’s new apartment with a plant. Jess and Marie are unpacking, and they’re having a disagreement about a wagon wheel that’s been made into a table with a round plate glass on top. Harry and Sally have just run into Harry’s ex-wife. He seems upset but denies it when Sally asks him if he’s okay. Jess asks Harry for his opinion, and Harry says it’s nice and walks over and stares blankly out the door. Marie asks Sally for her opinion, and Sally just makes a face and shakes her head no. Jess and Marie continue arguing, and Harry turns around and walks toward them and explains that his marriage started out fine and then begins to raise his voice. Sally tells him that he’s upset and they shouldn’t talk about that right now. He disagrees because he feels that by telling them about it they’ll benefit from his experience. Harry continues raising his voice, explaining how his marriage ended up. He walks out the door, slamming it behind him. Sally explains to that they just bumped into Helen and follows Harry out the door. Harry is pacing in front of the apartment, and Sally walks down the steps. He admits that he shouldn’t have done that. Sally explains how he should handle his emotions. They ended up in a heated argument after Harry tells Sally that nothing bothers her. This scene between Sally and Harry on the front step demonstrates all four areas of responses to conflict: exit response, neglect response, loyalty response, and voice response. It also demonstrates unproductive conflict communication patterns during conflict by disconfirming, mind-reading and kitchen-sinking. Sally tries to address the conflict directly with the voice response. She came right out and told Harry that he needed to learn how to control his feelings. She explained that there is a time and place for everything and that was not the...
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