We Make Divorce Harder
Should we make divorce harder to get?
Growing up as a child, the first words that is often learned is “Mommy and Daddy”. These two groups of individuals are there to help grow and nurture the child for their well-being. Unfortunately, many parents are dealing or have dealt with the consequences of a divorce. Rich believes that about 40% of couples that divorce proceed on having one or both of them to reconcile, yet it effects certain areas in their lives. All of these situations can put harm towards the children, family and themselves.
Along with several studies by Scott and Arkowitz, most adults who were children of divorce experience serious problems such as depression and relationship issues. Several of those parents remain in …show more content…
Even when a child goes through a nervous breakdown the parent should still be involved in that child’s life.
Many of these problems can be the effect of a parent’s inability to show love and offer their children stability when they need it the most. The child is the main focus, no one divorces the children they are the offspring not the cause of it. Some children overlook he idea of their parents getting a divorce as being their faults when really it’s not. Parents are only to blame themselves for divorcing and not their children.
Similarly, Divorce not only effects children, but can spread around family and close friends causing a rippling effect as Rich, sociologist from PEW research center, would say is a “Social Contagion”. The contagion of a divorce can diffuse amongst close family and friends just like a rumor on a social network. Behaviors start to change and people begin to act different towards each other, especially in a relationship. According to Rich it’s a never ending battle that could not be held if it isn’t being resolved. For their study, McDermott and her colleagues collected and used data from several rounds of interviews beginning in 1971 and ending in 2001. In the interviews everyone was either a close friend or a relative. The overall results were that divorce of a close relative or friend widely increased the probability, mainly about 75% of divorce rates …show more content…
Can one mention “I know how you feel” or will that be too overbearing. Throughout one’s divorce, there is a time of stress and unwanted grieve. Shelley (correspondent) mentions that the hardest part of a loss is learning to accept the new reality. The process of getting a divorce is as painful as a loss of a close relative. It is difficult when not one in the relationship is trying to cope with one another. One has to accept the ending to be able to start a new beginning
Growing up as a child, the first words that is often learned is “Mommy and Daddy”. These two groups of individuals are there to help grow and nurture the child for their well-being. Unfortunately, many parents are dealing or have dealt with the consequences of a divorce. Rich believes that about 40% of couples that divorce proceed on having one or both of them to reconcile, yet it effects certain areas in their lives. All of these situations can put harm towards the children, family and themselves.
Along with several studies by Scott and Arkowitz, most adults who were children of divorce experience serious problems such as depression and relationship issues. Several of those parents remain in …show more content…
Even when a child goes through a nervous breakdown the parent should still be involved in that child’s life.
Many of these problems can be the effect of a parent’s inability to show love and offer their children stability when they need it the most. The child is the main focus, no one divorces the children they are the offspring not the cause of it. Some children overlook he idea of their parents getting a divorce as being their faults when really it’s not. Parents are only to blame themselves for divorcing and not their children.
Similarly, Divorce not only effects children, but can spread around family and close friends causing a rippling effect as Rich, sociologist from PEW research center, would say is a “Social Contagion”. The contagion of a divorce can diffuse amongst close family and friends just like a rumor on a social network. Behaviors start to change and people begin to act different towards each other, especially in a relationship. According to Rich it’s a never ending battle that could not be held if it isn’t being resolved. For their study, McDermott and her colleagues collected and used data from several rounds of interviews beginning in 1971 and ending in 2001. In the interviews everyone was either a close friend or a relative. The overall results were that divorce of a close relative or friend widely increased the probability, mainly about 75% of divorce rates …show more content…
Can one mention “I know how you feel” or will that be too overbearing. Throughout one’s divorce, there is a time of stress and unwanted grieve. Shelley (correspondent) mentions that the hardest part of a loss is learning to accept the new reality. The process of getting a divorce is as painful as a loss of a close relative. It is difficult when not one in the relationship is trying to cope with one another. One has to accept the ending to be able to start a new beginning