Virginia Woolf: to the Lighthouse
As a dedicated philosopher, Mr. Ramsey puts all his value on the permanence and greatness of his works. His need for intellectual success is metaphorically described as a journey between A to Z to a point where he is finally content with his contribution to and the lasting effect of his works on society. Mr. Ramsey shows the extent of his dependence on opinion of others often by constantly doubting himself. The smallest things trigger his biggest insecurities. For example, during the dinner conversation where the guests fail to mentions his works causing him much anxiety. In attempts to hide his vulnerability, Mr. Ramsey becomes controlling to those around him. His vengeance for the dinner conversation is seen clearly when he gets irrationally angry with Carmichael for consuming an extra bowl of soup. Mr. Ramsey tries to compensate for his dependence on others for self worth through his tyrant actions.
Since his identity is based solely on the perception of others, Mr. Ramsey constantly needs external validation. Although Mrs. Ramsey mocks her husband’s absurd anger towards the consumption of an extra bowl of soup, she understands that it is really about his insecurities and takes it upon herself to praise him enough