Violence In Relationships

Women are traditionally vulnerable to abuse when they are in a relationship. Even in the 21st- century women still, carry the relationship with their violent and abusive partner. Such violent relationships can seem extremely strange, but sometimes we have to take a look into the root of the problem of the relationship and look at the logical explanation of what can be causing the individual to act in such violent behavior. Majority of the times men and women who are in an abusive relationship will most likely still be with that partner years down the road, they will not separate or divorce their partner because to them it may seem unbearable and at times they will feel like they cannot live without their significant other, when in actuality
Deal and Wampler (1986) concluded that if violence occurred in the previous relationship then, it is more likely to occur in the relationship. These violent relationships do not change after marriage either. O’Leary et al. (1989) found that most of the couples still continued to be abused even after marriage. And he compared the pre-relationship and the post relationship after marriage and it was confirmed by retrospective reports of battered married women was preceded by aggression during courtship (Riggs et al., 1990). Learning about the dating violence in relationships not only provides us with better understanding but, it also provides us with an insight of the individual as adolescents and their behavioral pattern as an adult and what it can lead into in their
This model is based on the social learning and conflict theories. Which provides a better understanding in the socialization of experience contributed to violence in dating. Violence in dating is expressed as one’s potential for aggression and how they will react in a relationship. A good example that O’Leary and his colleagues give are, an individual who gets into relationships with a background of violence may at first not show any signs until later on when the relationship becomes more stressful or complicated than that is when aggression kicks in and it leads to the act of violence. It is very important when a person starts to date, that they know the other person background characteristics also referred as contextual factors and situational factors. When using this model of “contextual” and “situational factors O’Keefe (1997) found that male and female are different in these variables of the act of violence. Males violence tends to relate them to their background characteristics and how they grew up (contextual), while females tend to relate to the most situational factors, such as their past experience in prior