RUNNING HEAD: UNDERSTANDING MY PAST EXPERIENCES
Understanding My Past Experiences
Running Head: Understanding My Past Experiences
When I reminisce about my life, it really brings into focus how I have turned into the person who I am today. Starting from my childhood to my teenage years, and all the way through my early adulthood, I have experienced quite a bit more than most people who I know or have known. I have been shaped and molded my many ups and downs.
I know that living with one parent nowadays is not unusual. Living only with my mother brought out a lot of emotions during my childhood. Sometimes, they were pretty strong and confusing, too. My mother raised me without any support. My parents divorced when I was seven years old. There never was a really strong father figure in my life. I was lucky to witness civilized divorce of my parents because they did not argue, but there was a lot of tension between the three of us. I never was very close to my dad and never felt a lot of pain about living without him. My mother was my main source of trust, love, care, support, and understanding. I know being a single parent was difficult experience for my mom, but I grew up with understanding that it was normal. She raised me appropriately and tried really hard to reinforce nothing but superior morals and respect for me and others who came into my life. She spent a lot of time with me, which developed unique bond of trust between us, and it continues to evolve today. Living in a large community helped me to be actively involved in different in-school and afterschool activities. At a very young age I learned how to share responsibilities. I never had “token” chores to do in order to earn allowance. Instead, I knew that my contribution to my family of two was necessary.
My effort was always recognized, which helped develop pride in my own work. Along with learning my responsibilities, I also was forced to deal with some disappointments early in life. My mom responded to my challenges with encouragement, support, and empathy. Sometimes, I felt that she was too demanding and strict. Nowadays, I understand that my mom tried very hard to build in me intelligent, mature, independent, responsible, and initiative person with a high esteem. These qualities are very important for developing a strong personality. After analyzing parenting style I was raised in, I know my mother used authoritative parenting. I think that her demanding influence along with responsiveness to my needs became crucial during my early, middle, and late childhood, because it affected my future.
Growing up I have never had a lot of close people in my life. Maybe, that is why, I cherish guanine friends. Personally, friendship has always been one of my most ethical issues I have ever encountered. The problem being that there is never a clear way of defining it. My greatest test of friendship came in the last year of high school. I was very close with one of my friends. We grew up together, went to the same school, and spent most of our summers at camps. During our adolescence, however, we started to grow apart. My friend and I experienced our own role in life and identity in different ways. I truly felt comfortable being a part of a very small group of people who played out as a main source of communication for that period time in my life. I have always been very selective with my surroundings. I was focused on my academic goals. In contrast, my friend drifted from group to group, which caused a lot of uncertainty to her identity. She started to mix with the wrong crowd. Unfortunately, it led her to experience alcohol, cigarettes, and, eventually, world of drugs. First, I was in shock, because I knew my friend for a long time.
She never was close with her parents, and was quite motivated to rely on her own opinion. I was struggling with ethical dilemma and asking myself: “How I can get my friend on a right track...
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