How to become an effective leader? Perhaps you may have to possess at least one of the attributes. In this paper, interpersonal communication would be discussed and elaborated.
Interpersonal communication has a great deal of definitions. It is defined as an interactive face-to-face process between two people, in which one’s personal characteristics, relationship with another and social status can be reflected (Hartley, 1993). However, on the other hand, some experts express interpersonal communication as a process, which gives everyone an equal opportunity to influence one another, under the situation that everyone endeavors to sway the others (Emmert, 1984).
From the above two definitions, we know that interpersonal communication requires the existence of two or more people in the same space while the social roles is not important in the process yet it can be delivered to others via the conversation. Besides that, the relationship between the deliverer and the receiver can be reflected through the way of expressing idea or even enhanced by dialogue. How is the concept of social roles permeated through the speech? For instance, when followers are speaking to their bosses, they will speak politely; they will mind their wording; and they will address him deferentially. From another aspect, when bosses are giving an order or admonishing subordinates, they will also speak in a courteous manner too to show their respect towards the subordinates whereas their intonation would be sometimes agitated. By listening to the intonation throughout the communication, the social roles of the recipient and the deliverer can be figured out.
There are also a massive number of theories regarding interpersonal communication and they are divided into three areas: individually centered theories, interaction centered theories and relationship centered theories (Bylund, Peterson and Cameron, 2012). They are Goals-Plans-Action Theory, Uncertainty Reduction Theory, Uncertainty Management Theory, Action Assembly Theory, Communication Accommodation Theory, Facework and Politeness Theory, Speech Codes Theory, Social Penetration Theory and Communication Privacy Management Theory.
For the Social Penetration Theory, it teaches us how to make friends in the first meeting and even make a relationship evolve. When we first meet a stranger, whom we may like to make friends with, we will communicate and exchange information through bilateral appearance such as height, dressing style. Even more, when we begin to talk with the strangers, we would like to ask them something like their hobbies, favorites amongst others. Indeed, in the orientation stage, we will begin speaking with cliché and continue the topic with some questions that aim to understand the target more, not too shallow but not too deep either. If a person intends to talk something about one’s privacy, the receiving party may marvel the deliverer and thus the stages stated in the Social Penetration Theory cannot be demonstrated. This theory implies that the four stages expressed must happen one by one and no one should intend to interrupt the original developing pace of a relationship. Besides that, Social Penetration Theory consists of breadth (quantity of theme conferred) and depth (how private is the information delivered). In fact, it is unnecessary for elements, breadth and depth, to appear in the conversations at the same time. It depends on the relationship between the speech giver and the listener. For friends, it is fine only the breadth exists, on the other hand, for couples and married couples, it is ordinary that only depth exists. Among couples, the quality of the conversation is far more significant than the quantity as the purpose of communication between couples is to get acquainted with each other and increase the understanding of others on the habits, fears and other private information.
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