Concept of Resiliency:
A Child experiencing a broken family
A broken family is having a separated parents or parents living apart. It is a family that one or both parents are having a relationship with another person. It can also be a family that started at a young age and can’t handle their relationship anymore. When parents split up, there can be many emotions that a child may have to deal with it. These feelings internalize or expressed, will result in certain behavior that will possibly affect to the child’s outlook in life.
Some parents separate because they’re not ready to start a family because they’re too young and they want to enjoy their young adulthood. It can also be because they’re husband is hurting them. But, most causes of parent’s separation are financial problem and cheating. In some aspects parent’s lacks communication and understanding that leads to their “coldness” to one another that also leads to cheating. Also, some parents’ separate because their parents don’t want the wife/ husband for their child for some reason. And most of all, some husbands leave their wife when they knew they’re pregnant because to fight to uphold that kind of responsibility and vice versa, but that case is when the parents are still teenagers.
Having a broken family is difficult. It is a collapse of god’s intended design. Children can get robbed of a special experience and protection called “family”. They move on their lives as an individual without understanding of what familial security and bond is. They look out in the world and wonder why it has dealt them a cruel card in life, having to deal with separated parents can sometimes also be much harder than if one were to grieve their loss through death. The child can suffer from depression. The child can also feel low self-esteemed as if it’s their fault their parents break up. Other things can happen is that the child may eat a lot and become obese because of sadness. There are many things which can contribute to academic performance the effects of a broken family can certainly be part of the mix. There would be negative and positives to this particular trait and would largely depend upon the persona of the person that is striving to achieve something academically.
Our main goal is to know what or who gives the child hope, resiliency, inspiration and more. Also, to prove that not all child of broken families is rebellious, neglected, misbehaves or something. And, we want to understand and help them of what they’re going through.
Review of Related Literature
This part of the study presents different literatures and studies done about resiliency, parents’ separation and a child’s experiences having a broken family. According to Meyer (2006), resiliency is a characterized or marked by resilience: as capable of withstanding shock without permanent deformation or rupture and tending to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change. Child custody in reference to divorce refers to which parent is allowed to make important decisions about the children involved. Physical custody refers to which parent the child lives with. Among divorced parents, "parallel parenting" refers to parenting after divorce in which each parent does so independently; this is most common. In comparison, cooperative parenting occurs when the parents involved in the child’s life work together around all involved parties' schedules and activities, and this is far less common. After a certain "crisis period," most children resume normal development; however, their future relationships are often affected, as they lack a model upon which to base a healthy long term relationship. Nonetheless, as adult’s children of divorcees cope better with change. (Meyer, 2006) Children are affected by divorce in many different ways, varying by the circumstances and age of the child. Young children age’s two to six are generally the most fearful of parental separation, and often feel abandoned or...
References: • Meyer (2006)
Retrieved from: http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/childrenanddivorce/qt/Children-Are-Resilient-During-Divorce.html
• Meyer (2006)
Retrieved from: http://divorcesupport.about.com/bio/Cathy-Meyer-24136.html
• Maten, (2003)
Retrieved from: http://viriya.net/jabref/resilience/Resilience_in_Children_--_A_Review_of_Literature_with_Implications_for_Education.pdf
• Maten (2003)
Retrieved from: http://www.extension.umn.edu/distribution/familydevelopment/components/7565_06.html
• Meyer (2006)
Retrieved from: http://singleparents.about.com/od/intenseemotions/a/effects-of-divorce-on-children.html
• Soriano, J., (2011)
Post-Break Up Experiences of Long Term and Short Term Relationship Thesis
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