The Myth Of Co Parenting Hope Edelman Analysis

Hope Edelman a women who longs for a co-parenting relationship with her husband residing in a big happy family who spends heaps of time together; but is wrongfully mistaken when she realizes that she has to pick up all the responsibly for her husband by being both mommy and daddy. Then there is Eric Bartels in a battle of doing things the only way he knows how, misunderstanding the way his wife wants things to be done. These two show both sides of the co-parenting debate and tell how co-parenting is more of a blame game rather than actually co-parenting. In the article written by Hope Edelman, “The Myth of Co-parenting: How It Was Supposed to be. How It Was” she explains that not having her significant other around as much as she would
How It Was” Hope Edelman, the author, presents the argument that she has to take on more than half the responsibilities since the father is not home or able to help as much as she yearns for. So instead of talking with her husband she lashes out and snaps, unthinkingly, and so her husband misunderstands. Edelman presents a lot of hypocritical points when explaining her evidence. She blames everything on him, has a cold attitude about the situation the whole time, and then comes back with a happy ending story about how she forgave him and things are better now. “He came home from work in time for dinner. He sat at the kitchen table once a month and paid bills. And, on weekend trips he would drive the car.” (Edelman 52). This is an explanation of how she feels toward the beginning of the article and then how she has a quickly changed turn around in the ending parts of the article. “What really matters now… is that John is home before Maya’s bedtime almost every night no…” (Edelman 57). She has well written supporting evidence about how she feels, and very many examples to back her up. Although, her tone about the whole situation is very unclear, and makes you confused at some points in the article making you ask yourself if she’s sure about what she really wants in her
Men normally do things differently than women, by far. Rather than asking they just do things the way they see fit, or assume that the wife, or women, is capable of handling all the things needed for the children and the life at home. Bartels claim is that his wife just seems to yell at him when he doesn’t do something or doesn’t do something right. His simple request or suggestion to something that needs to be worked on only ends in a fight because they can’t seem to come to common ground. “My efforts to organize the contents of the armoire one day-a project she had suggested-led to a screaming fight.” (Bartels 58). He carries on to say that he makes dinner for the family, a nice thoughtful dinner in hopes to keep his wife happy, but she only nit-picks at everything he does wrong, rather than thanking him. “I make a nice dinner after a long day at work, broiled pork chops with steamed zucchini, perhaps, and she asks why I made rice instead of pasta.” (Bartels 59). Bartels begins to notice that his wife is also taking anger out on their children, contradicting herself in her tones when she speaks to the children. Women often scold men for not doing the things the way women normally intend on doing, and so Bartels says he suffers