Throughout the years there have been rumors about men fantasizing about lesbians, and how could we forget the infamous lesbian kiss between Jennifer Tilly and Gina Gershon in Bound? And although they are not announced lesbians, who would forget the Madonna-Britney-Christina kiss at the Video Music Awards? But what do all these women have in common? They seem to be sexy and perfect with all their femininity. This is something Western society has yet to accept, that there are different types of lesbians. Does this mean there are men fantasizing about a more feminine lesbian making out with a “butch” lesbian? Since the media has yet to confirm these suppositions, it’s safe to say that not many heterosexual men are comfortable living in a world in which estrogen and testosterone can coincide in a woman-to-woman relationship. In Law Enforcement Violence Against Women of Color, Ritchie touches the subject of police brutality and how it affects women. She says that when there are domestic violence cases under a lesbian relationship, it is seen as “mutual combat” and that the police corner the more ”butch” lesbian “police base their decisions regarding who is the abuser in lesbian relationship on race and gendered presumptions and stereotypes—the abuser must be the “bigger” partner, the more “butch” partner, the woman of color, or the person who is less fluent in English.” (pg 140). This not only proves how women are not respected whether it be their race, or their ethnicity, but also their sexual preference. This isn’t the first time where anyone who identified themselves as being part of the queer community was rejected and maltreated by the authorities.
Nowadays one flips the channel and can watch shows such as Will and Grace, Oz, and Sex and the City Under. These shows have countless comical scenes in which gay men date, and how they are viewed in the world. And all seems cheery after watching Sex and the City 2, where Stanford and Anthony wed in front of all of New York City to see. Before reading George Chauncey’s Why Marriage, one might not imagine life without queers and how they’ve rainbownized America with joy. Just to think that sixty years ago, there was such a huge debate about whether or not homosexuality defined one’s sanity. And to think that Hollywood wasn’t even allowed to deduce anything related to homosexual activity, half the shows in America media wouldn’t exist today. Jack Baker explains that “marriage has been used by the legal systems as a distribution mechanism for many rights and privileges” (pg 90). So why is it that there are only six states and Washington D.C. have legalized gay marriage if “Allowing gay people to marry would give them “a new dignity and self-respect.” ” (pg 90)?
Since the fifth century in ancient Greece, ‘gays’ were frowned upon and women were muted. During the 1950s there have been outrages accusations about queers, and yes, in 2011 the queer community has been brutally attacked by the ‘authorities’ in America and yet they have only gained the right to marry but only in six states. Progress has been slow throughout the years but it has been especially slow because of how the conservative side of society views gay pride. Many centuries later society is unable to accept homosexuals and their private life decisions about their sexual preference. Whether it be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or any other kind of sexual identity, the fight for total acceptance is still continuing today.