There were once the moments that take their breath away, leaving their hearts pounding and throat thickening; there were once the ones whose name they secretly write down on their diaries and whose footsteps they can carefully distinguish from others’. They said that it was love and they got married. However, as time elapses, all the moments are turned into the agonized memory, sealed deep in their hearts, and covered with stain and dusk; all their beloved ones, who they do not bother to make mention of any longer, turn out to be the avatar of antipathy and aversion. They say that their love dies and they get divorced.
Marriage endows the world with so much beauty, while the divorce dyes it with that much pain. We can not but heave a long sign at the fact that modern society is engraved with higher and higher divorce rate.
What prevails over love to be the marriage terminator?
Firstly, the intense stress broods over our society, weighing down people’s spirits with heaviness. Many people strain themselves too hard, like the dam which is inflicted with unbearable water pressure and has no outlet to drain off water. When the last straw brings about the bursting point, the dam will explode, and then collapse. While marriage tends to be the innocent sacrifice, because many people remain servile in their working place, but will release their pressure by venting anger on their spouse when they get home. They can not simmer down when their anger is fired like the arrow off the string, while the target is their family member whose heart will be scarred and battered. Love might get baptized by severe tests, but it will wear down when undergoing too much harm.
Secondly, the prevalence of feminist movements emancipates women from traditional role the society designed for them and our culture does not frown as heavily on divorce as it used to. Women have renounced the stereotyped view that the marital disruption will result in cynical criticism and they are eager to set up their own guiding landmarks and lead an independent life. Divorce, for women, use to be a double whammy in that their men were the backbone which they lived by and without which they could not brace up to a new life. However now, they hold the belief that “Just because you are single doesn’t mean you have to be alone.” Single life could also be multihued. Escaping from the fetters of marriage, they keep fleet-footed in the way of pursuing their own dreams.
Thirdly, the late marriage gives birth to flash marriage, which is, more
often than not, unreliable. There are more and more single youngsters who have exceeded the lawful marriage age, and when encountered with the right one, they are not willing to get bogged down in the seesaw battle where both sides have to figure everything out, including the family background, property condition, etc. Instead, they will consciously skip all the cumbersome links——dating, knowing each other, meeting their parents——into groundless marriage. Only when they unveil their true self in real marital life will they find that they have made the wrong choice.
I have ever known from my Irish friend that divorce is forbidden by law in her country; however, the day you get married, you could set duration for your marriage, from 1 year to 100 years. If you choose the former, you will get a fat book permeated with sundry rules and disciplines you had better observe in your marital life; if the latter, the only thing you will get is a piece of paper, with a sentence printed on it, “ Wish you an everlasting marriage.”
The amatory bud could sprout and grow up when they are delicately taken care of. If we have the determination to be the shoulder, the hand, the eye of each other, I believe that we can get over all the impossible to step into eternity.