There are different approaches people can take towards the idea of changing or improving how they function socially. The biggest one is the idea of being true to your natural preferences and tendencies and not trying to change them for other people. This article will talk about that.
The other two general philosophies towards changing are to try and truly alter your personality, and to consciously be pragmatic about how the social world is set up and adapt in order to get what you want out of it. Most people won't go all in on just one approach. They'll apply different philosophies to different areas depending on what's important to them.
General outline of the Be True To Yourself approach
This one doesn't need a ton of explanation. The idea behind it is that in social situations, it's better to be true to whatever your 'default settings' are. There are a few reasons for this. First, this philosophy believes people will just be happier this way, and that trying to change can cause problems. I would tend to agree.
Second, it has an inherent assumption that people have a variety of orientations towards socializing, and one type isn't better or worse than another. Preferring to spend your weekends reading at the cottage isn't inferior to wanting to be hang out with six friends at all times.
Some common areas where people want to be true to themselves are: * Liking a lot of alone time * Not being into wild, boisterous social events * Not being thrilled with rote, superficial types of socializing * Having interests that most people don't have, or that others even think are odd or pointless * Not being interested in things many people like, such as team sports or pop culture * Having an overall personality that many people would consider quirky or different * Their core values, beliefs, and philosophies about life (e.g., political or religious beliefs, value systems) * Anything