So What's So Bad About Being So-So? By Lisa Wilson Strick

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Have you ever tried to be so perfect at something and it ended up going all wrong? I have. In the essay “So What’s So Bad About Being So-So?” by Lisa Wilson Strick (205-207) she makes the point that being perfect doesn’t always turn out the way you hope. I completely concur with her. Perfection can often be a wonderful thing, but for me, perfection caused me to have a very low confidence and so it became a vice in my life. Rather then being myself, I was too concerned about trying to be like everyone else around me and it turned out to be a huge mistake. In Strick’s essay, she mentions that “Competition keeps getting in the way.” (207). This statement is very true for me. In my situation, my competition was all the high school students that surrounded me. I wanted to be more like them, rather then just being myself. Nonacceptance from my fellow students I looked up to and wanted to be like, made me hate everything about myself. I felt so out of place and knew I did not belong. I went to school
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I tried so many different things just to be liked and none of them worked. I tried wearing more makeup and doing my hair. I tried smoking cigarettes and being rude to my teachers just to stand out and get attention. None of it worked. I was always going to be known as the girl who could never fit in. I was trying so hard that I made everyone who was always there for me not want to be around me anymore. I hardly ever talked to my parents or the rest of my family because there was only one thing on my mind which was ‘I got to find a way to fit in and stand out.’ In the essay I mentioned earlier the author brings up a little nine year old girl who has so much going on she didn’t have any time to be a kid and play (207). In a way, that’s how I felt. No time to do anything else but to try and be part of the “in”

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